Grief & Loss In Adoption: Part One : Birth Mothers “There are two different kinds of strength. There’s the strength to make a parenting plan and then there’s the strength to give that plan to another.” Unknown Birth Mothers do experience grief and not to acknowledge it would be unfair to those experiencing grief and negligent on behalf of society.  To understand birth mother/ birth father grief is to acknowledge part of the process of adoption.  Adoption is a beautiful choice for an unplanned pregnancy, but it is never an easy one; especially for the woman who resembles the tree trunk of adoption; without a birth mother there is no adoptee and no adoptive parents.  Grief and loss in adoption is something that is not often talked about; but is needs to be for so many reasons.  Adoption is beautiful, but with every high there is a low.  Grie ...