Birth Mother Matters in Adoption 21: Adoption Reunification Part 2 of 2   Important Facts About Adult Adoption Reunification: It is not adoptees with poor relationships with adoptive parents that are most satisfied with birth family contact or as a result of negative adoptive family relationships.Every adopted person has two histories, one from their adoptive family and one from their birth family.When begining the quest as an adult adoptee:A), you may have feelings of being disloyal; as if you may not being faithful to your adoptive family.  B) The serach process may take longer than you hoped for.  C)  The outcome may not be what you expected; there may not be a wish to have a relatoinship on both sides, different lifestyles may exisit, or maybe your fantasies are not at all the realtiy you encounter.Have a support structure and understand  ...