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Bathroom Musings

Bathroom Musings

by Nessa Hagoz

Season 1

Burnout + X Drama + Whistling

The Friendless Friend OCD, The Lies We Believe BTS Of This Episode This week almost didn't happen. Six episodes in, quitting crossed my mind, but episode 10 is still the goal, so here we are, unfiltered and unscripted. Most of this episode is about my wild ride on X. What started as posting into the void with nine followers turned into a 92-day challenge, real growth, and eventually burnout that I ignored for way too long. There's a lesson in there about growth without burnout that I'm still learning to apply. Then come the stories. A supposed travel agency that turned out to be a full-blown scam, and a smooth-talking guy from a space who seemed perfect for a friend until he showed his true colors on a phone call. Both stories have their fair share of chaos and comedy. To close things out, there's some real talk about R&B artists and heartbreak, an update on my whistling journey with Amazing Grace, and a sneak peek at my upcoming fiction book, Mareds. Come for the stories, stay for the lessons.

Toxic Love

Get The Friendless Friend on My Store Get The Friendless Friend on Amazon Medium Article BTS of this episode In this episode, I'm opening up about one of the most emotionally exhausting relationships of my life—a four-month whirlwind with a wealthy, powerful man who turned out to be deeply toxic and controlling. I'll walk you through the red flags I missed, the manipulative behavior that had me trapped, and the shocking truth I discovered about him years later. If you've ever wondered why people stay in toxic situations, this episode breaks down exactly how someone can go from being confident in your own judgment to feeling completely suffocated. My hope is that sharing my story helps you recognize these warning signs in your own life, because sometimes the best thing you can do is simply run.

Your Strength Could Be Their Weapon + Suffering in Silence + Reframing The Letdown

Get The Friendless Friend on My Store Get The Friendless Friend on Amazon btS of the recording of this episode Mark Manson’s YouTube Video The Silent Patient Exploring the uncomfortable truth that your greatest strengths can become your biggest vulnerabilities. From childhood lessons about sharing to adult experiences with false accusations and manipulation, I unpack how kindness without boundaries opens the door for people to exploit you. And honestly, being smart about who you help is just as important as being kind. Throughout this episode, I get vulnerable about my struggles with isolation during health challenges and introduce my book "The Friendless Friend," which was born from my own pain. You'll also hear how turning disappointment into an experiment completely changed my perspective. A candid, thoughtful conversation about setting boundaries, reading patterns, and finding growth in unexpected places.

Real Stories of Regret, Boundaries & Starting Over

BTS of this episode Six of my friends share stories they have never forgotten, stories of procrastination that cost more than expected, relationships that taught hard lessons about boundaries and self-worth, and setbacks that eventually led to something greater. A man reflects on putting off something his father kept asking him to do, never knowing it would be the last time he had the chance. A woman traces the pattern she kept repeating in relationships until she finally chose herself. Someone else shares what it took to stop letting one difficult person rob them of their peace. There are also lessons about loyalty, what happens when you go out of your way for someone and they disappear, and a life that looked like it was falling apart in the final stretch only to come together better than anyone expected. These are not motivational speeches, they are real experiences shared honestly, with something worth taking away from every single one.

Near Highway Accident + Empathy in Suffering + I Finally Learned Papaoutai by Stromae

My book on Amazon Learning papa ou tai BTS recording this episode In this episode, I share a chilling true story of a near highway collision that turned out to be no accident at all. The experience sparked a deep dive into whether we can truly empathise with others when we are drowning in our own pain, and left some very hard questions about suffering, selfishness and the weight our pain can place on complete strangers. Back in university, finding a bundle of cash while hungry and broke with my roommate led to a decision that did not make my roommate happy at all. The story opens up a bigger conversation about integrity, empathy and whether doing the right thing even makes sense when you are the one who is suffering. One of my most embarrassing moments also makes an appearance, involving an ATM that electrocuted me in the middle of the night and the very undignified solution that came to mind to get my card back, because sometimes life is just that unserious. The episode closes with a February adventure of learning and recording Papaoutai by Stromae, which was far more stressful than expected, along with a link to the short ebook OCD The Lies We Believe, available on Amazon for anyone who wants an honest and uncensored look at what living with OCD is really like.

When My Dream Predicted a Death + Grief I Never Processed + 54 African Capitals with My Sister

My Ordeal Learning the African countries and their capitals BTS of this episode's recording What do you do when a dream literally predicts someone's death — and you never get to cry about it? In this episode, I open up about grief, the pressure of being the strong one, and why we shouldn't wait for the fear of loss to appreciate the people we love. Plus, a fun and chaotic quiz on all 54 African countries and their capitals with my sister.

My Language Exchange Horror + Taking Advice Too Far + NATO Alphabets

My book Chris willex podcast Chris Willex newsletter Learning NATO spelling alphabet YouTube video on history of NATO spelling alphabets BTS of this episode + screenshot In this episode, I share a disturbing encounter with a language exchange partner whose story felt more like a perverse fantasy than a genuine experience. I explain my decision to report him and discuss how practicing post-content clarity helps me manage extreme emotional reactions to the media I consume. At the end, I share my recent weekly adventure of learning the NATO spelling alphabet.

Welcome to Bathroom Musings (Trailer)

It's called Bathroom Musings because we tend to get our best ideas in the bathroom. This is a bi-weekly podcast brought to you by Nessa Hagoz. See this as a time to hang out with a friend who tells you real stories that hopefully make you think, someone who knows how to have fun and sometimes lets you in on her adventures. Subscribe. Thank you! 💋