SHIFT Talking™

SHIFT Talking™

di Davina Hehn

22: How to Argue Smarter: Stay Calm, Get Heard, and Keep Your Relationships Strong

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In this episode, Davina discusses strategies for managing conflict effectively, focusing on recognizing escalation signals, utilizing the power of pauses, and employing grounding techniques. She emphasizes the importance of vulnerability, disarming statements, and setting boundaries during conflicts. The conversation highlights the need for self-awareness and resilience in navigating emotional challenges, ultimately aiming for personal transformation and healthier relationships. 01:05 Introduction to Conflict Management 04:28 The 3 Stages of Escalation 05:40 The Power of the Pause 09:30 Grounding Techniques During Conflict 14:51 Disarming Statements and Vulnerability 21:20 Challenging the Win/Lose Narratives 24:47 Applying the SHIFT Framework Takeaways Early intervention is key to preventing conflict escalation. Recognizing physical signs of escalation can help manage reactions. The power of the pause allows for thoughtful responses instead of impulsive reactions. Grounding techniques can help regain control during heated moments. Disarming statements can help de-escalate conflicts and foster understanding. Setting boundaries is essential for healthy communication. Practicing self-regulation techniques can lead to better conflict outcomes. Vulnerability in conflict can strengthen relationships. Building resilience takes time and practice. Empowerment comes from understanding and managing one's emotional responses. Take Action: Book a PREP Call Become a STEADY Friend Join The Parental SHIFT Waitlist Get in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth: TikTok: @asteadyspace Instagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavina Youtube: @shifttalkingwithdavina Visit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs. Join the Community: Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady and get your shift together.

21: How to Speak Up Without Starting a Fight (Even If You Hate Conflict)

In this episode of SHIFT Talking, Davina explores the nuances of assertive communication, emphasizing its importance in preventing and addressing conflicts. She reflects on her previous episode's shortcomings and introduces a structured approach to initiating difficult conversations. The discussion covers various communication styles, the significance of nonverbal cues, and practical strategies for effective dialogue. Davina also introduces the SHIFT framework, encouraging listeners to practice assertiveness in their daily interactions and prepare for future episodes focused on conflict resolution. Takeaways Assertive communication is essential for effective dialogue. It's important to differentiate between assertiveness and aggression. Starting conversations well can control their direction. Using 'I feel' statements fosters vulnerability and clarity. Understanding the listener's perspective is crucial in communication. Nonverbal cues play a significant role in how messages are received. Practicing assertive communication can build confidence over time. The SHIFT framework provides a structured approach to communication. Avoiding absolutes in complaints helps reduce defensiveness. Preparation and practice are key to successful communication. Take Action: Book a PREP Call Become a STEADY Friend Join The Parental SHIFT Waitlist Get in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth: TikTok: @asteadyspace Instagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavina Youtube: @shifttalkingwithdavina Visit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs. Join the Community: Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady and get your shift together.

20: How to Stop Fights Before They Start: Emotional Regulation & Parenting Tools That Actually Work

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In this episode, Davina discusses the importance of preventing conflicts and managing anger through self-awareness and emotional regulation. She introduces the SHIFT framework, which emphasizes self-awareness, healing, innovation, fortitude, and transformation. The conversation covers recognizing triggers, understanding emotional responses, and the significance of communication in preventing conflicts. Davina shares personal experiences and practical strategies for parents to navigate their emotions and improve relationships with their children. 02:02 Understanding Triggers and Self-Awareness 10:39 The Shift Framework: Healing and Innovation 19:00 Fortitude and Transformation in Anger Management 24:05 Innovative Communication and Proactive Engagement 30:27 Building Emotional Fortitude and Daily Maintenance 35:51 Transformative Practices for Parenting and Self-Management Take Action: Join The Parental SHIFT Waitlist Get in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth: TikTok: @asteadyspace Instagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavina Youtube: @shifttalkingwithdavina Visit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs. Join the Community: Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady and get your shift together.

19: The Holistic Dolly on Empowerment, Gratitude, and Getting Out of Survival Mode (Part 3)

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In Part 3 of their enlightening conversation, Dolly and Davina explore the multifaceted journey of self-love and healing. They discuss the importance of self-empowerment, the depth of self-care, and the logical approach to emotional work. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of accepting one's shortcomings, the role of anger as a messenger, and the transformative power of writing. They also touch on the impact of medication in healing, the necessity of building nurturing connections, and the continuous journey of self-discovery through gratitude and community support. 00:00 The Essence of Self-Love Languages 05:00 Understanding Self-Empowerment 14:50 Navigating Emotional Pain and Spiritual Growth 20:05 The Importance of Connection and Community 24:47 Gratitude as a Transformative Force 35:02 The Power of Boundaries and Self-Worth 40:11 Embracing the Process of Healing Get in Touch with The Holistic Dolly: Follow Dolly on social media for more! Instagram & Threads: @the.holistic.dolly Youtube: @theholisticdolly Website: www.theholisticdolly.com Get in Touch with Davina: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth: TikTok: @asteadyspace Instagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavina Youtube: @shifttalkingwithdavina Visit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs. Join the Community: Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady while getting your shift together.

18: The Holistic Dolly on the Steps to Self-Love (Part 2)

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In Part 2 of this three-part series, Davina and The Holistic Dolly explore the profound journey of self-love, emphasizing the importance of self-attunement, self-compassion, self-forgiveness, and self-parenting. They discuss how these elements contribute to emotional healing and personal growth, while also addressing the challenges of resistance and the need to reconnect with one's body and emotions. The conversation highlights the significance of nurturing all parts of oneself and the transformative power of understanding and accepting one's past experiences. 00:18 Welcome to SHIFT Talking 01:15 Self-Attunement Explained 03:00 The Second Self-Love Language: Self-Compassion 03:28 The Third Self-Love Language: Self-Forgiveness 10:38 The Fourth Self-Love Language: Self-Parenting 18:50 Impractical Expectations of Healing 23:58 Spiritual Rebuilding Get in Touch with The Holistic Dolly: Follow Dolly on social media for more! Instagram & Threads: @the.holistic.dolly Youtube: @theholisticdolly Website: www.theholisticdolly.com Get in Touch with Davina: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth: TikTok: @asteadyspace Instagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavina Youtube: @shifttalkingwithdavina Visit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs. Join the Community: Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady and get your shift together.

17: The Holistic Dolly on Finding the Roots of Healing (Part 1)

In the first episode of SHIFT Talking in 2025, Davina kicks off the year with an inspiring and thought-provoking conversation with The Holistic Dolly—an experienced Trauma Recovery Registered Nurse, licensed in California, and Holistic Mental Health Life Coach. Specializing in childhood trauma recovery and codependency healing, Dolly shares her unique, holistic approach to rebuilding self-love and mental health through her concept of the five self-love languages. In Part 1 of this three-part series, Davina and Dolly explore profound themes of trauma recovery, self-love, and the cultural influences that shape mental health practices. Dolly reflects on her personal journey, the impact of childhood trauma, and how it shaped her path to becoming a guiding light for others. Together, they unpack the foundational self-love language of self-attunement—learning to deeply connect with every part of yourself, even the messy ones—and discuss the distinction between empathy and compassion in the healing process. This engaging conversation is the perfect way to start the new year, offering practical insights, emotional depth, and hope for what’s possible when we prioritize self-love and holistic healing. 00:22 Welcome to SHIFT Talking 02:45 Introducing The Holistic Dolly 05:23 The Benefits of a Virtual Landscape 10:50 How Culture Drives Coaching 16:57 The Five Self Love Languages Book Get in Touch with The Holistic Dolly: Follow Dolly on social media for more! Instagram & Threads: @the.holistic.dolly Youtube: @theholisticdolly Website: www.theholisticdolly.com Get in Touch with Davina: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth: TikTok: @asteadyspace Instagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavina Youtube: @shifttalkingwithdavina Visit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs. Join the Community: Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady and get your shift together.

16: 2024 Recap: Transformative SHIFTs in Life, Love, and Leadership

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In the final episode of 2024, Davina reflects on the journey of 'SHIFT Talking' and her business, A Steady Space, highlighting personal and professional milestones, challenges, and growth. After expressing gratitude to supporters, Davina recounts overcoming fears, imposter syndrome, and launching new programs like Shift Me, Shift Us, and Keep Anger. She celebrates the transformative impact of the podcast and collaborations with brands like Seeking Health and Vital Apparel. Looking forward, she shares plans for 2025 including guest interviews, launching the Parental Shift program, and transitioning to a virtual coaching platform. On a personal note, Davina discusses her mental health journey, the evolution of her marriage, and embracing her role as a parent. She concludes with a focus on self-awareness, resilience, and the importance of taking measured risks, encouraging listeners to join her for another year of shifts and growth. 00:26 Welcome to Shift Talking 00:53 Reflecting on the Journey 03:24 2024 Recap: A Steady Space 09:22 Personal Growth and Challenges 16:54 Looking Ahead to 2025 34:36 Final Thoughts and Gratitude Take Action: Take the 'Born to Be a Parent vs Partner' Quiz Download our Supplements Resource Join The Parental SHIFT waitlist Get in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth: TikTok: @asteadyspace Instagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavina Youtube: @shifttalkingwithdavina Visit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs. Join the Community: Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady and get your shift together.

15: The Hidden Cost of Cancel Culture & Strategies to SHIFT It

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In this episode of Shift Talking, Davina delves into the nuanced topic of cancel culture, exploring its impact on individuals and society. The discussion covers the positive aspects such as social accountability and community empowerment while highlighting the negative consequences including psychological harm, social ostracism, and empathy erosion. By sharing a personal story and applying the SHIFT framework, Davina advocates for a balanced approach to accountability that fosters growth and understanding. Practical strategies for promoting constructive dialogue and emotional regulation are provided, aiming to replace punitive measures with compassionate conversations. The episode concludes with a challenge for listeners to replace cancellation with compassion in their lives. 00:00 Introduction to Cancel Culture 00:34 The Concept of Accountability 01:21 Personal Anecdote on Growth 02:55 Positive Impacts of Cancel Culture 04:35 Negative Effects of Cancel Culture 05:57 Psychological and Social Effects on Cancelers 09:37 Long-term Behavioral Patterns 16:19 Applying the Shift Framework 23:35 Final Thoughts and Call to Action Get in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth: TikTok: @asteadyspace Instagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavina Youtube: @shifttalkingwithdavina Visit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs. Join the Community: Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady and get your shift together.

14: New Year, Same Struggle: Why Resolutions Don't Work - And What Does

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In this episode of Shift Talking, the Davina delves into the pervasive topic of New Year's resolutions and their true impact on personal growth. Debunking the myth of overnight transformation, Davina discusses the societal pressures that lead to setting unrealistic goals, and why such resolutions often result in disappointment. Highlighting research that shows only 8% of people achieve their resolutions, the episode emphasizes the importance of intrinsic motivation over external pressures. Davina introduces the SHIFT framework to replace traditional resolution-setting, focusing on self-awareness, innovation through SMART goals, and fostering resilience. The episode also announces the upcoming 'Parental Shift' community for parents seeking support in managing stress and expectations. This episode serves as a guide for adopting a more sustainable and forgiving approach to personal development. 00:00 Introduction and Welcome 00:11 The Problem with New Year's Resolutions 02:56 The Shift Framework: Self-Awareness 04:59 Innovation: Setting SMART Goals 15:30 Fortitude: Building Resilience 17:37 Transformation: Achieving Real Change 21:01 Conclusion and Community Announcement Take Action: Join The Parental SHIFT Waitlist Get in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth: TikTok: @asteadyspace Instagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavina Youtube: @shifttalkingwithdavina Visit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs. Join the Community: Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady and get your shift together.

13: How Unmet Expectations Sabotage Your Joy and What to Do About It

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In episode 13 of Shift Talking, the Davina dives deep into the crucial but underrated topic of expectation management and its significant impact on personal relationships, parenting, and self-perception. The episode delineates how unrealistic expectations, when unmet, lead to conflict, disappointment, and emotional distress. Through personal anecdotes and professional insights, Davina illustrates practical ways to set realistic expectations, communicate needs effectively, and adjust perspectives using the SHIFT framework of self-awareness, healing, innovation, fortitude, and transformation. Listeners will also learn the importance of explicit communication in romantic relationships, parenting, and daily interactions to foster emotional regulation and satisfaction. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 00:22 Understanding Expectation Management 01:11 Expectations of Ourselves 05:18 Managing Expectations in Relationships 10:09 Expectations with Children 14:13 General Expectations and Daily Interactions 21:57 Applying the SHIFT Framework 32:19 Conclusion and Upcoming Topics Get in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth: TikTok: @asteadyspace Instagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavina Youtube: @shifttalkingwithdavina Visit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs. Join the Community: Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady and get your shift together.
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