I’m trying to become less self aware

What if becoming more confident and magnetic has less to do with improving yourself—and more to do with thinking about yourself less?

In this episode of Confessions of a Wellish Girly, I’m talking about how I confused being impressive with being magnetic. I thought confidence would come from becoming attractive enough, successful enough, interesting enough, healed enough, or accomplished enough that I could finally stop worrying about how people saw me.

Instead, I’m realizing how much of my life I’ve spent self-monitoring: Did I say the right thing? Was I weird? Do they like me? How am I coming across?

We’re talking about the difference between self-awareness and self-surveillance, why the most magnetic people often aren’t the most polished people in the room, and what happens when you stop asking, “Do they like me?” and start asking, “Do I like it here?”

Maybe confidence isn’t becoming someone impossible to reject. Maybe it’s being present enough to stop constantly editing yourself.