In this episode, Brian Pultro is back on Wellish for a conversation about ambition, success, failure, identity, and the pressure to constantly become a better version of yourself.

We talk about why so many of us treat happiness like something waiting on the other side of the next goal, why the definition of success keeps changing as we move through life, and what happens when ambition stops being something you have and starts becoming who you are.

Brian also opens up about retiring after 20 years in the Navy, losing a piece of his identity in the process, setting a goal to run a marathon before he feels remotely ready, and the belief about himself he’s been carrying since he was 17.

We get into fear of failure, saying your goals out loud before you can prove yourself, meaningful lives versus impressive ones, the tiny ways perfec ...