What if some of the things people find most difficult in mainstream dating — mixed signals, ambiguity, performance, ghosting, pressure, & the fear of saying what they actually want — are exactly the things some people in ethical non-monogamy are learning to handle more directly?

In this episode of The Connection Audit, Kirsten & Blake explore whether some people in E&M experience more autonomy, honesty, confidence, clarity, & belonging than they do in mainstream dating culture — & what might explain that difference.

This is not a romanticised take on E&M, nor a dismissal of monogamy. It is a careful audit of relational culture. We examine the gap between public assumptions & the emerging evidence, including the way mononormativity shapes what people think a “healthy” relationship should loo ...