Stop Parenting & Start Coaching

Stop Parenting & Start Coaching

di Nate Crandall and Steve Galley

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EP 113: PARENTS--Let's Get RADICALLY HONEST!

PARENTS--Let’s get radical! Let's get honest! We might as well get RADICALLY HONEST!! Traditional parenting often breaks down when your teen starts to compete or perform at a higher level. What they need isn't more control, it's a shift from your best parenting to skilled coaching. We dive into what radical honesty really means, how to reset communication, and why your own growth as a parent is the key to unlocking theirs. It’s not about pushing harder—it’s about connecting deeper. Let's go MVP's!! You're cordially invited to join us on a LinkedIn LIVE on Monday, September 22nd at 7-7:30 pm MST. It will be informative, interactive, and it's 100% free (really). And did I mention it will be a lot of fun?! See you there! NATE & STEVE: LINKEDIN LIVE--The RADICALLY HONEST Conversation for crazy busy high achieving parents of high performing teen athletes! The Timestamps 00:00 The Need for Coaching Beyond Youth 03:20 Parental Growth and Connection 06:16 The Impact of Expectations on Performance 08:35 The Importance of Radical Honesty 10:48 Transitioning from Parenting to Coaching 12:45 Invitation to the PRIME your MIND for PARENTS LinkedIn LIVE Takeaways -Coaching is essential for both teens and parents. -Parents often stop seeking coaching as they grow older. -The demands of parenting require continuous personal growth. -Parental growth can significantly impact teen performance. -Controlling the controllables is crucial for parents. -Teens often struggle with external expectations. -Radical honesty is the foundation for growth. -Shifting from parenting to coaching reduces conflict. -Parents should seek coaching to better support their teens. Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify. New episodes drop every MONDAY. We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We're also hang out and spread our message on LinkedIn. Please follow us and engage with us there: LinkedIn Steve Galley And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward! -Nate & Steve

EP 112: PARENTS: We'll Fight You Over THIS!

"Nobody needs coaching" (say it in a bit of a whiny voice for added effect). While that is a common "hot take" out there in the coaching space, we 100% go against the grain on that statement. Those are fightin' words to us! After 55ish combined years of coaching, parenting, and marital (mostly) bliss...we strongly contend that while everyone may not want a coach or aspire to be coached, Everyone Needs a Coach!! Tune in to this short but hard punching episode where we will present the arguments against the "nobody needs coaching" statement and throw a few haymakers in presenting our case for the necessity of coaching. Are you ready for coaching?! Takeaways -Everyone needs a coach to help them grow. -Individual athletes often have coaches to address blind spots. -A great coach acts as your externalized prefrontal cortex. -Coaching accelerates the rate of improvement. Go further, faster with coaching! -Parents should shift from parenting to coaching their teens. -Coaching is not just for professional athletes; it's for everyone. -Coaching helps in elevating all areas of life consistently. -EVERYONE NEEDS A COACH. Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify. New episodes drop every MONDAY. We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve Galley And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward! -Nate & Steve

EP 111: PARENTS--We Want You to Get M.A.D.!

Parenting is the hardest job and there's not a close second. So what if you just decided to focus on getting "M.A.D.?!" We do what we do because we want to be M.A.D. 24/7/365 if at all possible. Tune in to find out why being a M.A.D. parent will help you to help your high performing teen to soar! If you model this yourself as a high achieving mom or dad, your teen is likely to become a M.A.D.M.A.N. or M.A.D.W.O.M.A.N. too! The Timestamps 00:00 Exploring the Why Behind Our Actions 02:58 The Impact of Mentorship on Youth 05:46 The Joy of Coaching and Making a Difference 10:58 Creating a Unique Coaching Model Takeaways -Understanding our motivations can lead to personal growth. -Every child needs coaches and mentors outside of their parents. -Coaching is about making a difference in lives. -The joy of coaching comes from seeing others succeed. -Life lessons learned through sports are invaluable. -Authentic connections in coaching enhance learning. -Parents can elevate their coaching skills for better outcomes. -The be mad philosophy emphasizes making a difference. Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify. New episodes drop every MONDAY. We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve Galley And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward! -Nate & Steve

EP 110: PARENTS -- Are You In Alignment?

Raising high-achieving teens is not about pushing harder—it’s about aligning better. We reveal how you can use coaching strategies that keep your teen motivated, connected, and resilient—even when the inevitable, emotional potholes appear. And teens face dozens of emotional potholes in an average school day. It's easy for them to get out of alignment quickly which in turn can create alignment problems with you as a parent. We've faced this pothole/alignment issue as dads, coaches, and teachers. Let's take this whole pothole thing head on and explore some practical solutions that you can implement with your teen right away! The Timestamps 00:00 Understanding Alignment in Relationships 03:03 Emotional Potholes and Their Impact 06:00 Navigating Values and Goals 08:17 The Importance of Check-Ins 11:07 Closing Thoughts on Alignment Takeaways -Alignment is crucial in relationships, not just for cars. -Teens face bigger and faster emotional swings than parents. -Parents and teens often share the same goals but can misalign. -Emotional potholes knock teens out of their alignment. -Values play a significant role in maintaining alignment with goals. -Regular check-ins can help assess emotional states. -Parents should focus on relationship value over achievement. -Strong connection helps teens get back on track faster. Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify. New episodes drop every MONDAY. We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve Galley And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward! -Nate & Steve

EP 109: PARENTS--Are You Confident Enough to Help Your Teens?

If you’ve ever felt your heart race while watching your teen compete or perform, you’re not alone. We’ve been there—sitting in the stands, palms sweaty, wondering if I’ve done enough to prepare them for this moment. We've also been a little shaky at times before an crucial conversation or uncomfortable situation. Confidence as a parent isn’t something we’re born with—it’s something we intentionally build. In this episode,we use the metaphor of a pre-flight checklist to shifting from "parenting" to “coaching.” You’ll discover how to prepare for high-pressure moments so you can show up calm, ready, and modeling confidence your teen can mirror. Let's go Most Valuable Parents! The Timestamps! 00:00 The Confidence Question 02:31 Building Confidence Through Evidence 05:13 The Role of Systems in Parenting 08:02 Shifting from Parenting to Coaching 11:21 Preparing for High-Pressure Moments Takeaways -Confidence comes from doing and having evidence of success. -Build a "pre-flight checklist" to prepare for parenting challenges. -Shifting from parenting to coaching can enhance confidence in both parents and teens. -High performance habits can help parents feel more confident in their roles. -It's important for parents to recognize their own high-pressure moments. -Asking great questions can help parents coach teens effectively. -Confidence needs to be continuously cultivated. -Parents should model preparation for high-pressure situations to their kids. -Feeling nervous while watching kids perform is common and can be managed. Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify. New episodes drop every MONDAY. We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve Galley And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward! -Nate & Steve

EP 108: PARENTAL INFLUENCE -- A High Stakes Job!

What is the most important relationship? We've got our answer. Do you have your answer? We won't really fight you over this, but we absolutely, positively believe it is the parent-teen relationship. And...parenting a teen athlete or performer isn’t just another stage of life—it’s a high-stakes job with an expiration date! Let's get real about what it takes to win in this short window of time that you get with your high achieving teen. If you're tired of your traditional parenting tactics that fall flat, you’re going to want to hear how coaching can change everything—especially implementing the high performance habit of influence. The Timestamps! 00:00 The Most Important Relationship in the World 03:26 Identity Development in Adolescence 06:18 Modeling Behavior and Future Relationships 09:15 The Role of Influence in Parenting 12:14 Emotional Regulation and Vulnerability 13:47 Growth Mindset and Parental Growth Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify. New episodes drop every MONDAY. We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We also are posting valuable content on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/steve-galley/ And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward! -Nate & Steve

EP 107: PARENTS: Talk Less, Smile More!

When your high achieving teen starts tuning you out, it’s a warning sign—not a "drive off the cliff" moment. It’s a chance to upgrade your approach. A welcome chance to shift from parenting to coaching. In this commuter-friendly--"I'm too busy to listen to long form podcasts"--conversation, we explore how a traditional parenting strategy fails miserably—and how coaching habits rooted in connection, curiosity, and courage can unlock your teen’s highest potential. The Timestamps 00:00 The Power of Listening in Parenting 07:49 Influence and Expectations in Child Development 11:22 Finding Balance: Communication and Connection Takeaways -Talk less, smile more is a powerful approach to connecting. -Listening > lecturing. -Influence decreases as parents talk more! -Fewer words and better timing can enhance communication. -Letting teens sit in uncomfortable emotions can be beneficial. -Asking good questions leads to deeper conversations. -Parents should avoid giving unsolicited advice. Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify. New episodes drop every MONDAY. We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you! And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward! -Nate & Steve

PARENTS: Ditch the Old Playbook!

PARENTS: Is your playbook outdated? Discover how questions—not commands—empower your teen athlete. You’ve worked hard to give your teen every opportunity for success—but is your parenting actually helping them thrive or holding them back? In today’s episode, we dive into why shifting from advice-giver to question-asker could be the most powerful move you make. Timestamps 00:00 Shifting from Parenting to Coaching 02:52 Relationship Building is Where It's At! 04:25 Understanding the Role of Expectations 07:27 The Power of Questions in Parenting Takeaways -Realizing the old parenting playbook isn't effective is crucial. -The relationship with teens is paramount for effective parenting. -Understanding expectations can alleviate pressure on teens. -All progress starts with the truth in relationships. -Asking questions fosters autonomy in teens. -Communication should shift from advice-giving to inquiry. -Empowering teens through questions is essential for their development. Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify. New episodes drop every MONDAY. We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you! And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!). -Nate & Steve

"Organization on the Go" with Zoya Lehrer of ORGO

Parents! CHAOS alert! Ever feel like you're drowning in the chaotic shuffling of schedules, calendars, practices, carpools, uniforms, and GPS instructions?! Well, you probably are! Let's throw you a rescue donut (and maybe a chocolate one, too) and help you create some clarity and control. Want to know how you can turn your family scheduling chaos into "organization on the go?" OK, we've got something for you that you'll wish you had yesterday! In this week's episode, Zoya Lehrer, co-founder of Orgo--the shared calendar app for crazy busy sports parents--shares the origin story of this amazing app. While on her journey as a supermom managing the messiness of scheduling and organization with three very athletic and active daughters, she and her hubby, and her girls were NOT feeling the joy. They were feeling the pain! The Lehrer family eventually reached a point where the chaos--and we're talking CHAOS in all caps--was as Zoya puts it: untenable!! So she decided to leave the fin-tech corporate world and is now on a mission to help parents just like her, and YOU, to calm the chaos. Tune in to hear Zoya discuss the fascinating and essential concept of "time literacy," and why we as moms and dads (along with our kids) MUST understand it! This is a must listen for your crazy busy parents smack dab in the middle of those precious, youth sports and teenage years!! The Timestamps! 00:00 The Chaos of Family Sports Scheduling 09:28 Understanding Time Literacy 19:14 The Emotional Toll of Parenting Kids in Sports 28:39 Building a Support Team at ORGO 37:55 Navigating the Balance of Activities & Choices 37:06 Family Values and Measuring Success 39:45 The ORGO Approach to Family Organization 47:12 Finding Calm in the Chaos of Parenting Your Young Athletes & Performers 49:39 Getting Started with ORGO--Let's Keep it Simple for You Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you! -Nate & Steve

Parenting Gold Nuggets: SIMON TIMMS of All In Counseling

Hey there high achieving moms and dads! Are you ready to fill your parenting and coaching pan with some gold nuggets?! Simon Timms is in the house and he's got 30 years of parenting wisdom to share. As an experienced father, husband, and licensed therapist Simon knows the ins, outs, ups, and downs of communicating and connecting with teens, especially when the stakes are high and the going is tough! You're going to love this one! The Timestamps! Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Parenting Challenges 00:57 Simon Timms: Background and Experience 07:57 Understanding Teen Pushback 10:49 The Importance of Validation in Parenting 16:42 Navigating Expectations and Communication 22:13 Addressing Negative Core Beliefs in Teens 27:01 The Role of Non-Parental Adults in Helping our Teens 28:26 Building Resilience in our Teens 31:07 Understanding Insecurities in Parenting 33:01 Radical Acceptance and Self-Awareness 35:36 Mindfulness and Self-Care Practices 39:04 The Role of Martial Arts in Self-Discipline 44:07 Creating a Safe Haven for Teens 47:31 Transitioning from Parenting to Coaching 52:17 Recognizing When to Seek Therapy Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast! We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you! -Nate & Steve

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