Stop Parenting & Start Coaching

Stop Parenting & Start Coaching

di Nate Crandall and Steve Galley

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Parent Alert! Giannis Delivers a Life Lesson for the Ages!

Giannis Antetokounmpo (say that 5 times fast!), the all star forward and one time MVP of the National Basketball Association's Milwaukee Bucks is currently experiencing painful playoff adversity in more ways than one. At publishing time of this episode (April 29, 2024) he is hobbled by a late season injury that has kept him out of the series with the Indiana Pacers which has also contributed to them facing first round elimination for the second consecutive year. Ugh! So let's rewind a bit... Back on April 26, 2023. The Eastern Conference #1 seeded Milwaukee Bucks had just been eliminated from the playoffs in the first round by the #8 seed, the Miami Heat. By most observers, this was an unexpectedly quick end to the Bucks' season. In this short episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we discuss NBA superstar Giannis Antetokounmpo's answer to the following question in a post game press conference following the disappointing defeat: "Do you view this season as a failure?" We are downright giddy of the widespread broadcast of this press conference question. We are likewise jazzed that it was asked of a well respected, well grounded, not to mention immensely talented, professional athlete such as Giannis. The question and answer provides a golden opportunity for you as a parent to really think about your own thinking relative to "failure" and "success." What is your definition of success? We believe this question and your answers can open the door of discovery as you intentionally engage in meaningful discussions with your spouse and teens concerning your definitions of "failure" and "success." Enjoy! ----Watch the Giannis Antetokounmpo press conference here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uZwlAzr44ys ----Watch the Inside in the NBA crew explore the Giannis press conference here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qI6vsaZZDJc -Nate & Steve P.S. We also introduce The Scoreboard Course for parents of teen athletes and performers which is undergoing a few tweaks before we launch it along with our new revamped website: createtransformbecome.com. P.P.S. f you love this podcast and find it helpful, would you please indulge us and leave us a 5 star review and share this episode with a parent friend who would enjoy it too? THANK YOU FOR YOUR SUPPORT as our passion project gains traction and the createtransformbecome community continues to blossom!

SLOW down to SPEED Up!!

Moms/Dads--Halt...Stop. If you have not listened to Episode 41 on The 3 R's of Productivity, please throw it into Reverse and go listen to it first. And then... dial in to today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast where we do a semi-simulated coaching session of a fictitious (and totally plausible) Parental Unit who is proudly wearing The Badge of Busyness! Enjoy! ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Hey there Very Important Parents! We resolve to up our game in 2024 as we strive to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Please hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts--while it lasts, and even on YouTube). New episodes drop every Monday. We would love it and be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along with a helpful comment for other listeners on what you are learning (and hopefully incorporating) from the show. After all, we created it just for you and as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching! -Nate & Steve

3 R's 4 Parent Productivity

Moms/Dads--we know you're soooooper BUSY! And we know you're often proud of it--haha! We get it and applaud your never ending efforts to excel and doing your best to help your teen athlete or performer excel! Bravo! Question: Should we proudly display the Badge of Busyness? We're not saying it's a terrible thing, but...and this is a big but...is there anything we can do as high performing parents of high performing teens to alleviate this incessant BUSYNESS that is both a blessing and a curse?! It turns out there is, you can, and probably already are!! But let's check in on this anyway. We're going to get busy (sorry, we are dads) explore in today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast (and next week we'll be role playing an abbreviated coaching session with a parent who wears the Badge of Busyness!) We also destroy the age old, worn out, and deeply flawed title of "time management!" Let's go--we're excited to challenge your thinking today about going fast and we're also jazzed to chat about The 3 R's. C'mon, we're coaching and psychology nuts so we gotta throw in a Consonant List every once in awhile! Enjoy! ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Hey there Very Important Parents! We resolve to up our game in 2024 as we strive to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Please hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts--while it lasts, and even on YouTube). New episodes drop every Monday. We would love it and be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along with a helpful comment for other listeners on what you are learning (and hopefully incorporating) from the show. After all, we created it just for you and as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching! -Nate & Steve

PARENT: "What's This Gonna Cost Me?"

We're weighing costs and benefits and outcomes today on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! Let's address some very important questions that you as parents need to ask yourselves as you make decisions about support, incentives, and rewards with the intent of raising your teen's performance and creating a great life experience for them. And, as you decide on what type of support you provide, what are the ramifications besides the obvious (and not so obvious) price tags?! Here are a few teaser questions to ponder: --Do I pay or reward for performance such as stats, ratings, scores, or rankings? --Do I incentivize outcomes? --Have I considered the ramifications for everyone involved (team/group, teammates/peers, coaches/leaders)? --How do I really know or learn what to reinforce or incentivize? And...there's more! We'll also dive into the following critical concepts: 1) The reality that teens are very susceptible to feeling as if they are a burden on their very supportive parents. 2) How can you create transformation rather than going through the motions of making mere transactions in your parent/teen athlete--performer relationship. 3) Have I sufficiently pondered whether my actions and support are "costs" or "investments?" What do I truly value and how does that translate to my support of my teen athlete/performer? Let's goooooooooooo moms and dads--let's up your game! ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Hey there SUPERSTAR Parents! We are striving to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts--while it lasts, and even on YouTube). New episodes drop every Monday. If you are loving what you hear, could you please share The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast with a few of your friends so more parents and teens can benefit from what we're building! Moms/Dads--we're cheering you on this week as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching your superstar teen! You are doing better than you think and your teen athlete or performer is counting on you. We believe in you! -Nate & Steve

"Bracket Watching!" Should You or Shouldn't You, Parents/Teen Performers?!

This episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast. is no joke (really)! Happy April 1st everyone! Today we explore a very intriguing question from one of our teen listeners (ha-this isn't just for parents!) who competes as a high school wrestler: Should I or shouldn't I "bracket watch?" What a great question! And what a timely question too as most of the world (even if you don't like basketball) is aware of the fun and frenzied "bracket watching" that goes on during the winding up of the college basketball season as several dozen teams engage single elimination tourney bracket craziness known as March Madness (even though it always ends in early April--so there's that!). So let's tip this thing off and play--here are a few things we'll address in today's discussion: --What is "bracket watching?" --Will "bracket watching" help me perform better? Will it harm my performance? --What is the best approach to help me focus in a tournament or competition scenario? We hope you love this episode and find it useful! And while you're here, would you please share it and/or this episode with your parent friends (or teen athlete) who reside with teen athletes/performers. \ We do this for you and cannot do it without you. Please drop us a 5 star review on your favorite pod platform if you feel we are deserving of such glowing comments--it will help our podcast become available to more parents! We also LOVE the feedback and/or questions you send to us at createtransformbecome@gmail.com. We'd be honored to discuss your "parenting your athlete/performer question/crisis/issue" on an upcoming episode. We drop new ones every MONDAY! Moms/Dads--we want you to elevate your parenting (and so do your kids!). You CAN do this if you "Stop Parenting & Start Coaching" your superstar teen! Let's goooooo! -Nate & Steve

Parents--Trash The Blamethrower!

Welcome to a fiery episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast where we encourage you, ourselves, and all Parental Units on earth to toss those ever so destructive Blamethrowers into the trash heap! We're not gonna lie--today's subject makes us squirm a little and may make you a bit uncomfy as well! That's why it's soooooo necessary and so important for each of us to address head on. We aim to help you avoid being "trapped in blame!" So, here's our path today. We will build on the "Figure it out and get better" & The Expectancy Test concepts from Episode 37 "So, You're Saying There's a Chance" by discussing the destructive nature of casting blame! Here are a few questions we encourage you to entertain: --How do we deal effectively with uncontrollable situations (that are true) where mistakes are inevitable?! --Where is a better place for my focus? --What is the best perspective to help me avoid picking up The Blamethrower? --How do you really want to show up for your kids before, during, and after their performances? And, that's not all! We finish up with some gems on how to deal with friends, other parents, or even your spouse who play the blame game! If you "figure this out and get better" you'll be modeling a great life skill to your teen athlete and performer! WIN-WIN, baby! ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ We LOVE feedback and/or questions! Send us yours to createtransformbecome@gmail.com. We'd be honored to discuss your "parenting your athlete/performer question/crisis/issue" on an upcoming episode. We drop new ones every MONDAY! Moms/Dads--you are doing better than you think and your teen athlete or performer is counting on you. Have a great week of parenting, uh we mean, coaching!! -Nate & Steve

So You're Saying There's A Chance?!

Thank you for joining us as we attempt to counter a crazy delusion that exists in some parental circles on today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! This episode is built around an illuminating observation and quote from an NBA veteran and father, Jamal Crawford. Listen in to hear him describe a chronic problem in the AAU youth basketball circuit than can help you grow as a parent and in turn help your teen to successfully navigate their performance world. It matters not if your son or daughter plays basketball, a musical instrument, or sings like an angel--there is much to learn here in this discussion. How can you avoid The Delusion Zone and show up as your best parental self? Well, let's start right here with these two gems... Become informed and set realistic expectations! Determine whose dream is being pursued! In this episode we introduce the raw material of The Expectancy Test, a new thinking tool we're creating! It is comprised of a few powerful questions you can ask yourself as a parent to help you to help your teen athlete or performer pursue their dreams and perform their best! Let's goooooooooooo! ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are striving to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts--while it lasts, and even on YouTube). New episodes drop every Monday. If you are loving what you hear, could you please share The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast with a few of your friends so more parents and teens can benefit from what we're building! Moms/Dads--we're cheering you on this week as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching your superstar teen! You are doing better than you think and your teen athlete or performer is counting on you. We believe in you! -Nate & Steve

Stops Signs, "The Ladder" & "I Don't Know"

In today's this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we are going to talk stop signs, ladders and the common "I Don't Know" answer. We dive in first by chatting about those red, octagon-shaped street signs and "The Ladder of Learning!" What is The Ladder of Learning? You're going to find out (or remember it) in this episode. We all climb it throughout our life and it's important that we understand where our teen athletes and performers are at on The Ladder. Understanding the 4 related "rungs" of competence, incompetence and consciousness is way more important than that physical ladder hanging in your garage. When your kids say "I don't know" you can immediately up your parenting game as you seamlessly encourage them to "think about their thinking" because you really know and understand The Ladder of Learning! Oh, this is the good stuff! It is your time to shine parents! And when you shine, you empower your teen athlete and performer to do the same! Hey--while you're here, would you please share our show or this episode with a parent friend who could benefit as well. We do this for you and cannot do it without you. We would love a 5 star review from you if we are deserving of such! We also LOVE your feedback and/or questions you send to us at createtransformbecome@gmail.com. We'd be honored to discuss your "parenting your athlete/performer question/crisis/issue" on an upcoming episode. We drop new ones every MONDAY! Moms/Dads--we want you to elevate your parenting. You CAN do this if you "Stop Parenting & Start Coaching" your superstar teen! You are doing better than you think and your teen athlete or performer is counting on you. Let's goooooooo! -Nate & Steve

Parents--Get Curious, Not Furious!

Parents... Ever run into Stubborn Walls in your daily battles with a not so cooperative teen? Ever tried to connect with Stubborn Ones? Ever been in the proverbial "I'm Right You're Wrong" power struggle with your teen (or anyone else!)? In this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we explore how you can learn to lead with humility in conversations with teens who are not so easy to connect with. Some questions we take on include: --What is your role as a parent in your teen's journey? --How can you can connect with your teens while not destroying boundaries or letting them run wild! --Are you ready to hear something you do not want to hear? --What's something "simple and consistent" that you could do daily that will create mutual respect and understanding? Most Valuable Parents--we hope this episode will help you gain some helpful insights to help you confidently approach and guide conversations with your Stubborn One(s)! If you love this episode, please share it with a friend and if you love it as much as a full fledged dance party with Furious George & The Monster Groove, we'd love it if you gave us a 5 star review and/or leave a helpful review so others may more easily find us as we continue to grow--thanks! And please remember, we're cheering you on moms and dads--you're doing better than you think! - Nate & Steve

The Parental Pull of Gravity!

Moms and Dads--Ever feel like you're spinning out of control? How do you stay firmly in orbit in your role as a Parental Unit?! Prepare to launch yourself (sorry for the dad joke) into the nerd zone in this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast. We'll do our very best to land on the following questions (sorry, that was a bad one!): --Why is it critical you UNDERSTAND the gravity of your role as a parent? --Why is being INTENTIONAL in your interactions and conversations so important? --What do your teens WANT (& NEED) to hear from you? --What is the danger of being TRAPPED by your past mistakes? --W.I.N. -- What's Important NOW? When you get this all of this right, your teen athlete and performer will be freed up to perform their very best and will do so knowing that you are firmly in your orbit and in their corner! Speaking of corners, we wrap up today's episode's by splashing down (oh boy) into Creation Corner where we invite you to thoughtfully and carefully answer the most "important question: the W.I.N. question!! 1) List "the W.I.N." for you as a parent 2) Discuss your "W.I.N." answer(s) with your spouse, a friend, or a random stranger at the grocery store! We hope you love this episode and find it useful! And while you're here, would you please share it and/or this episode with a parent friend (or two or three) who could benefit from it as well. We do this for you and cannot do it without you. We would love a 5 star review from you if we are deserving of such! We also LOVE the feedback and/or questions you send to us at createtransformbecome@gmail.com. We'd be honored to discuss your "parenting your athlete/performer question/crisis/issue" on an upcoming episode. We drop new ones every MONDAY! Moms/Dads--we want you to elevate your parenting (and so do your kids!). You CAN do this if you "Stop Parenting & Start Coaching" your superstar teen! Let's goooooo! -Nate & Steve

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