Love Under the Scope

Love Under the Scope

di Kelby Lauren

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How to Handle Having a Crush Outside of Your Relationship

Developing a crush on someone outside of our relationship can be an uncomfortable experience. It's a situation that can lead to heavy feelings of shame, unworthiness and misunderstanding of ourselves. The truth is, we are human beings with many layers. So many of us carry unhealed wounds from our childhood and past as a whole. Interestingly, those wounds and unmet needs can eventually lead to having a crush outside of our (happy) relationships. Join me on this episode of Love Under the Scope to discover exactly where crushes come from and how we can move through them with self-compassion and clarity. And I've got great news for you: working through a crush can actually bring you closer to your partner.

Why We Try to Control Our Partners (and How to Stop)

Control in relationships isn't something that only narcissists engage in. So many of us impose subtle, even subconscious, controlling behaviors on our partners. This type of dynamic can happen to the best of us - even those who mean well. The truth is, we're demonstrated how to subtly control our partners by our parents, extended family, and society as a whole. Some of us use control as a way to appease our own anxiety - projecting our worries and fears onto our partner in an act of desperation. So how do we unlearn this detrimental way of being and start to reconnect with love and compassion in our relationship? Tune in to this week's episode of Love Under the Scope to find out.

How to Feel More Connected to Your Partner

In this episode of Love Under the Scope, we'll explore connection (and disconnection!) in relationships. I'll start out by defining connection - what is it actually? Then, we'll get into why disconnection happens and how we can avoid it in the long-term. I'll share specific methods and practices that have worked for me in my relationship. Plus, my own personal experience of connection in my relationship and the eps and flows that we have experienced as a couple.

Why Do I Feel Lonely in My Relationship?

Do you ever get that feeling of being alone, even when you're with your partner? Loneliness in relationships is a common phenomenon. In this episode, we'll dive into how we can create our own sense of loneliness throughout our childhood - which then bleeds into our relationships. I'll give you insights on where the loneliness may stem from and how to address it in your relationship.

How to Stop Getting into Toxic Relationships | Episode 5

In this episode, we explore what toxicity in relationships really means, how it develops, and why it’s not always about one “bad” person. We discuss the patterns and behaviors - often rooted in childhood - that can quietly erode connection, and the importance of owning our part in the dynamic. Through real-life examples, we look at how self-reflection and accountability can transform both our relationships and our relationship with ourselves. Finally, we share ways to move from draining, toxic cycles into healthy, supportive, and inspiring partnerships.

Why We Self-Sabotage in Relationships (and How to Stop) | Episode 4

In this episode of Love Under the Scope, we’ll explore how self-sabotage can surface in long-term relationships and the childhood roots that often shape these patterns. We’ll look at the many ways the “inner saboteur” shows up—through criticism, withdrawal, comparison, or fear—and why it emerges even in loving partnerships. We’ll reflect on how awareness and compassion can shift our relationship with this part of ourselves. By the end, you’ll gain tools to recognize, soften, and transform self-sabotaging tendencies into opportunities for deeper connection.

Why Conflict is Normal in Any Great Relationship | Episode 3

Arguments are par for the course when we're in a long-term committed relationship. If we're trying to understand each other, there are going to be misunderstandings. But why does this conflict occur? In this episode, we'll explore exactly that. Tune in for a deep dive into why we get into arguments and challenging dynamics in even the best of relationships. You are not alone!

How Sex Drive can Change in a Long-Term Relationship | Episode 2

Our desire for sex can vary greatly across relationships, especially when we meet someone that we feel fully safe with. In this episode, Kelby discusses her experience with sexuality from her dating years up into her current relationship of 7 years. If you've ever questioned what was going on with your sexuality after entering into a long-term relationship, this conversation is for you.

What to Expect from Love Under the Scope | Episode 1

In the very first episode of Love Under the Scope, host and certified relationship coach Kelby Lauren sets the stage for a raw, honest, and deeply personal exploration of long-term relationships. Kelby shares her vision for the show: to peel back the layers of what it truly means to be in a committed partnership—not the highlight reel we see on social media, but the messy, beautiful, and often challenging realities that happen behind closed doors. With vulnerability and insight, she reflects on her own six-year relationship, the self-work that’s fueled it, and the conditioning we all carry into love. From emotional triggers and intimacy to disconnection, arguments, and unconscious patterns, this episode invites listeners to rethink what a “healthy” relationship really looks like. Whether you're single, partnered, or somewhere in between, Love Under the Scope is here to shine light on the hidden corners of love—and to remind you that you're not alone in the struggle to love and be loved.

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