In Conversation With Myself

In Conversation With Myself

di Kane howarth
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The Masks We Wear

The masks we wear, masking, authenticity, people-pleasing, identity and the different versions of ourselves we become in different relationships and environments. In this episode of In Conversation With Myself, Kane explores what happens when we hide parts of ourselves to feel safe, accepted or connected. Drawing on his experiences as a queer man, someone living with ADHD, and a relational, integrative psychotherapist, Kane explores how masking can develop through childhood, relationships and our experiences of the world around us. Why do we become different versions of ourselves at work, with family, with friends, or around strangers? Where do people-pleasing, self-doubt and the fear of judgement come from? And what happens when the mask we’ve learned to wear no longer serves us in the same way? This episode explores emotional safety, identity, authenticity, belonging, vulnerability and the protective parts of ourselves that can sit underneath the person we present to the world. Rather than asking, “How do I take the mask off?”, Kane asks a different question: “What was this mask trying to protect?” This week, notice one situation where you feel yourself becoming a different version of you. What part of yourself feels safest there? What part stays hidden? And what might that mask be protecting you from? In Conversation With Myself is a reflective podcast exploring psychology, mental health, identity, relationships, ADHD, queerness and the different parts of ourselves that make us who we are.
S1 · E7
18 set 2026
12:26

The Anxious and the Excited Emotions as Messengers

Anxiety, excitement, emotions, ADHD, and emotional wellbeing… in this episode of In Conversation With Myself, I explore what happens when anxious and excited feelings show up at the same time. Have you ever felt excited about something while another part of you is quietly saying, “What if this goes wrong?” I’ve been thinking about how often we treat emotions as something to fix or overcome, when perhaps they’re better understood as messengers. When I’m faced with something new or important, different parts of me can react in completely different ways. The Feeler might be full of excitement and possibility, while the Critic is already imagining everything that could go wrong. The Shy part might be worried about being seen, while the Therapist in me tries to slow everything down and get curious about what’s happening underneath. In this episode, I explore the relationship between anxiety and excitement, how emotions can coexist, and why feeling anxious doesn’t necessarily mean we should stop. I also reflect on my own experiences of university, becoming a therapist, working with my first client, and creating this podcast, and how anxiety has appeared alongside some of the things that have mattered most to me. Because perhaps emotions aren’t instructions. Perhaps they’re information. And sometimes, anxiety isn’t telling us “don’t do it.” Sometimes it’s telling us: “This matters.” In this episode, we explore: Anxiety and excitement as emotional responses Why different emotions can exist at the same time Emotions as messengers rather than problems to solve ADHD, emotional experiences and overthinking Understanding bodily sensations The difference between feeling anxious and actually being unsafe Becoming curious about what our emotions are trying to communicate This week, I invite you to notice one strong emotion and pause before trying to change it. Ask yourself: What is this feeling trying to tell me? What part of me is speaking? And what might it want me to notice? 🎙️ In Conversation With Myself is a reflective podcast blending psychotherapy, psychology, lived experience, ADHD, identity, relationships and gentle conversations about what it means to be human.
S1 · E6
21 ago 2026
10:59

Taking Up Space Without Permission - Who Do we Become When In Relation To Others

People-pleasing, self-worth, boundaries, authenticity, ADHD, relationships, and psychotherapy—in this episode of In Conversation With Myself, I explore why so many of us wait for permission before taking up space, speaking honestly, or allowing ourselves to be fully seen. Have you ever noticed yourself shrinking to make other people more comfortable? Waiting for someone else to tell you it’s okay to speak up, share your opinion, or simply exist without apologising? In this episode, I reflect on how different parts of ourselves show up in relationships, at work, with friends, and even with strangers. I explore how attachment, life experiences, and old messages can shape the way we relate to others, often leaving us seeking approval before trusting our own voice. Through personal stories, lived experience as a psychotherapist, and gentle psychological reflection, I ask what might happen if we stopped waiting for permission and started becoming curious about the parts of us that learned to stay small. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re taking up too much space—or perhaps not enough—I hope this conversation reminds you that your voice matters, even when a part of you isn’t quite convinced yet. 🎙️ In Conversation With Myself is a reflective podcast blending psychotherapy, psychology, lived experience, ADHD, identity, relationships, and gentle conversations about what it means to be human.
S1 · E5
7 ago 2026
11:22

Befriending The Inner Critic

Befriending the inner critic Inner critic, self-compassion, perfectionism, people-pleasing, ADHD, psychotherapy, and mental health: in this episode of In Conversation With Myself, I explore why our inner critic develops and how we can begin relating to it with curiosity rather than criticism. The voice in our head isn’t always our own. Sometimes it carries messages we’ve absorbed from parents, teachers, relationships, or society. Over time, those voices can become our own internal dialogue. In this episode, I reflect on my own experiences of living with ADHD, the stories I learned about myself, and how I’ve started to understand my inner critic as something that was trying to protect me rather than hurt me. Rather than asking, “How do I silence my inner critic?” I ask a different question: “What is this part trying to protect me from?” Together, we explore: • Why the inner critic develops • The connection between perfectionism, people-pleasing and self-worth • How childhood messages can become our inner voice • ADHD, self-judgement and internalised beliefs • A gentler, more compassionate way of relating to ourselves If you’ve ever felt like you’re your own harshest critic, I hope this conversation helps you meet that part of yourself with a little more understanding. 🎙️ In Conversation With Myself is a reflective podcast blending lived experience, psychology, psychotherapy, ADHD, identity and gentle conversations about what it means to be human.
S1 · E4
24 lug 2026
11:40

I Am Becoming - A Dialogue In My Head

In this episode of In Conversation With Myself, psychotherapist Kane Howarth explores affirmations, self-reflection, and the different parts of ourselves through the story behind his I Am Becoming affirmation cards. What began as a personal affirmation practice became a way of understanding the inner critic, developing self-compassion, and becoming more aware of the different voices that shape how we see ourselves. Together, we’ll explore how affirmations can become more than positive statements. They can be invitations into conversation with the quieter, louder, critical, hopeful, and protective parts of who we are. As always, this isn’t about fixing yourself or becoming a perfect version of who you think you should be. It’s about paying attention, listening a little more closely, and continuing the process of becoming. This episode also includes a gentle reflection exercise that you can try for yourself. Topics include: affirmations, self-reflection, self-compassion, inner critic, ADHD, parts work, personal growth, identity, mental health, and becoming.
S1 · E3
10 lug 2026
13:04

Pride Month Special - Why we still need Pride in 2026

Bonus
Pride Special | Visibility, Safety & Becoming In this Pride special of In Conversation With Myself, psychotherapist Kane Howarth reflects on what Pride has come to mean beyond parades and celebrations. Through the lens of lived experience, Kane explores growing up under Section 28, coming out, internalised messages about being queer, and the different parts of ourselves that learn to hide, protect, adapt, and eventually step into the light. This is a conversation about visibility, safety, identity, and the lifelong process of becoming. It’s about recognising that the parts of us that once kept us safe still deserve compassion, even as we begin to live more openly. Kane explores lived experiences of needing to hide his queer identity in different environments as a way of self preservation. Whether you’re part of the LGBTQ+ community, questioning your identity, or simply interested in understanding the different parts of yourself, this episode invites you to reflect on what it means to be seen and what it takes to feel safe enough to be yourself. Topics include: Pride, LGBTQ+, queer identity, mental health, psychotherapy, self-reflection, internalised shame, visibility, self-acceptance, identity, parts of self, and becoming.
S1
26 giu 2026
14:33

Thinker, Feeler Therapist, Shy: Meet The Parts

Who is really speaking when we think, feel, analyse, or hold back? In this episode, I explore four parts of myself: the Thinker, the Feeler, the Therapist, and the Shy Part. Together, they reveal different ways of navigating the world... through logic, emotion, understanding, and self-protection. Drawing on personal reflection, lived experience, and gentle psychological curiosity, this conversation explores what happens when we stop seeing ourselves as one fixed person and start listening to the different voices within us. If you’ve ever felt torn between what you think, what you feel, and what you show to others, this episode might resonate. I would also like to hear about it. Thank you for listening. Kane :)
S1 · E2
12 giu 2026
11:34

Where Do I Start? Why I’m Talking To Myself

What if you're not just one version of yourself? In this episode, Psychotherapist Kane Howarth (me) explores internal parts, self-reflection, ADHD, identity and the different internal voices that shape who we are. Join the conversation by reflecting on your own inner world, and follow the podcast for future episodes exploring psychology, queerness, neurodivergence, relationships, and what it means to be human. In the first episode, I'm exploring the different parts of myself that show up in everyday life. The part that wants to be seen. The part that wants to stay hidden. The part that overthinks, protects, criticises, avoids, hoes and dreams. As a psychotherapist, I spend hours sitting with other people and listening to their exploration of the inner world. Here, I am turning that lens inward and beginning a conversation with my own. So, why not come along for the ride. Kane :)
S1 · E1
12 giu 2026
10:48

Welcome to In Conversation With Myself - Trailer

Trailer
In Conversation With Myself is a reflective podcast about the conversations we have within ourselves. Hosted by psychotherapist Kane Howarth, this podcast explores inner experience through lived experiences and reflection rather than theory based learning or teaching. Kane is queer, lives with ADHD, and works as a therapist in private practice in London, but this is not strictly a clinical or educational podcast. Instead, it is a personal exploration of identity, parts of self, and the ongoing process of becoming. At its heart, this podcast asks a simple question: What happens when we start listening to the different parts of ourselves? If you’ve ever felt like there is more than one voice inside you, or found yourself in internal conversation or conflict with different parts of who you are, this podcast invites you into that space. New episodes released fortnightly. And I hope to see you there. Lots of love and speak to you soon. Kane x
S1
5 giu 2026
2:12