sovereignty vs selfishness: setti...

sovereignty vs selfishness: setting boundaries in a mentally ill society

Friend Crush with Amber Akilla di Amber Akilla
S7
17 lug 2026
28:14

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youtube video: https://youtu.be/_rVMkThrBaw

there aren’t enough words in the english dictionary to describe women who are living their best life and have healthy boundaries. we always have to reclaim language that has previously been used to disempower or judge women. anytime a woman makes herself less available for other people so that she can focus on herself and her own needs, she is labelled ‘selfish’… is she selfish or did she decide to gracefully pull back or exit a dynamic that took more from her than she recieved ????? to me this is not a moral issues because people have the right to be selfish and to indulge in other people’s selfishness, but on the flip side, people also have the right to walk away when it doesn’t work for them anymore. entitlement to one way extraction will not be tolerated! either deal with it, increase your contribution/what you have to offer or find someone else with lower standards.

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00:00 - 03:25 - intro

03:25 - 10:34 - sovereignty vs selfishness

10:34 - 13:15 - when sovereignty is mistaken for selfishness

13:15 - 14:15 - when you are the selfish one

14:15 - 17:20 - sovereignty & meeting your own needs, being hot & having fun

17:20 -18:54 - non-negotiable hobbies

18:54 - 19:11 - do you want to be right or do you want to be hot & having fun

19:11 - 23:55 - fear of being perceived/seen

23:55 -24:40 - redirecting your time, energy & attention

24:40 - 25:34 - the bullsh*t never ends

25:34 - as you change, so does your experience of existing relationships

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Parole chiave

self-empowerment
self-awareness
increasing baseline
being present
dealing with negativity
confidence
people pleasing
boundaries