Note sull'episodio
youtube episode: https://youtu.be/bJ1Ow4RFuW4
the irony of me filming this a week before that sh*k video oop at least you know i practice what i preach hehe
you life and your journey is for you to own. other people can disagree and say you're problematic but even then, no one is going to be strong-armed into a better version of themselves. even the most problematic people from your point of view need space to evolve and work through being a product of their environment and conditioning so they can take accountability and choose to change. doesn't mean its my or your responsibility to hold their hand through it, its just that arguing usually exacerbates a problem more than it provides a resolve. do you want to be right or happy???
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01:37 - define the terms
01:43 - never argue with a MAN for free
03:00 - what is love
04:23 - love exists as an action - separate to the culture of romance
05:10 - ‘never’
05:38 - ‘free’
06:31 - ‘argue’ - argument vs conversation
07:58 - types of communication
discourse, dialogue, debate, diatribe
09:14 - engaging in bad faith
10:41 - value
12:41 - walking away or changing the dynamic
13:25 - argument loop
13:56 - let them yap
14:10 - how to get out of an argument with your dignity in tact
15:03 - break the pattern today or the loop will continue tomorrow
15:42 - habit stacking
16:03 - changing response to triggers
16:43 - don't underestimate how important your validation is to other people
15:57 - people treat you with the grace they treat themselves
19:06 - fight or flight activation
19:46 - witholding your response
20:25 - being demure and mindful but not defensive
21:38 - hypocognition
23:06 - bracketing
23:53 - accept that some relationships are just limited
25:29 - you are not responsible for changing other people’s perception of reality if they aren’t ready
26:39 - reclaim and redirect your energy
27:57 - represent yourself rather than waiting for permission
28:35 - presenting something vs arguing about it
29:02 - trying to present new ideas/perspectives
30:43 - when they start a fight with you because they can’t handle their reaction to what you said
30:57 - when arguing might be beneficial
32:00 - when i might care what people think
33:47 - daily affirmations
34:17 - make sure you have a life
34:25 - pre-training so when you are triggered you are less likley to take the bait