Have you ever looked back at a relationship, friendship, or season of your life and thought, “That wasn’t really me”?

Not because someone forced you to change, but because somewhere along the way you started making decisions around someone else instead of around yourself.

In this episode, we’re talking about one of the most overlooked forms of self-abandonment: giving someone so much influence that their attention, approval, potential, or presence starts determining your choices. You lower standards, ignore your needs, make excuses, stay longer than you should, and slowly lose sight of what you actually want.

We’ll explore why so many of us do this, how it quietly erodes self-trust, and what it means to become the chooser again, not by caring less about others, but by finally including yourself in the decision-making process. ...