How to Trust Yourself Again When Your Track Record Is Messy
How do you trust yourself again when part of the reason you don’t trust yourself is because of your own track record? It’s easy to say, “trust yourself,” until you start thinking about the decisions you regret, the promises you didn’t keep, the times you knew better, or how often somebody else’s certainty started feeling safer than your own judgment. In this episode of The Confident Woman, Rachel Brooks opens up a deeper conversation about self-trust, confidence, faith, and what happens when your past starts becoming evidence against who you are now. Because after enough mistakes, disappointments, broken promises, and second-guessing, it’s easy to start wondering if your “picker is off,” if somebody else probably knows better, or if you can really trust yourself to make the next decision. But for a woman of faith, there’s another layer to this: if our ultimate trust belongs to God, what does healthy self-trust actually look like? Rachel explores the tension between seeking wisdom and outsourcing your authority, the difference between learning from a mistake and turning it into an identity, and why confidence doesn’t have to mean knowing you’ll always get it right. Sometimes the deeper work is learning how to make the best decision you can with what you know today while trusting God with what you cannot see. In this episode: How broken promises and second-guessing slowly erode self-trust Why somebody else’s certainty can start feeling safer than your own judgment The difference between receiving wisdom and surrendering your authority What Proverbs 3:5–6 changes about trust, discernment, and confidence How guilt and shame can turn “I got that wrong” into “I can’t trust myself” Why your track record isn’t finished One question sits underneath the entire conversation: Do I become what I’ve done, or do I become who He says I am because of what He did? Because maybe the answer isn’t proving that you’ll never make another wrong decision. Maybe it’s learning how to stop using your past as a permanent verdict on the woman you are becoming. If this episode helps you recognize where you’ve stopped trusting yourself, Becoming The Confident Woman gives you somewhere to keep going with the work instead of having another realization that disappears tomorrow. It’s an eight-week private audio mentorship with Rachel in your ear and a companion workbook to help you see what’s been shaping you, question what no longer fits, and begin making different choices from here. Start Becoming The Confident Woman Continue the Conversation: Follow Rachel at @iamrachelbrooks and join us inside Create Your Own Story on Substack for deeper personal essays, honest conversations, and the stories behind the work. Listen, subscribe, and share this episode with the woman who may be questioning herself because her past has convinced her she can’t trust who she is becoming. Scripture referenced: Proverbs 3:5–6