Most people expect the hard part of evolving to be the decision — the moment they choose to stop living as who they've been. But the real difficulty comes after that. In the space between the old version and the new one, where the old patterns are still running, the people around you haven't updated their picture of you, and you're trying to grow into someone you don't fully have a clear vision of yet.

What makes this particularly disorienting is that nothing is obviously wrong. The life may still be working. The relationships may still be intact. But internally, you're somewhere between two versions of yourself — and the uncertainty of not knowing which one is correct, yours or theirs, is its own kind of hard.

In this episode, Kyle breaks down what's actually happening in that in-between space. The unlearning — why beli ...