“Be the bigger person.” Sounds mature. Sounds evolved. Sounds… exhausting.

In this episode of Girls With Opinions, we’re unpacking why we actually don’t love the concept of being the bigger person — and how it often turns into code for swallowing your needs, silencing your truth, and keeping the peace at your own expense.

We talk about the pressure (especially on women) to stay calm, forgiving, and accommodating no matter what, and how that expectation can quietly lead to self-abandonment. We explore the difference between true emotional maturity and performative “niceness,” and why setting boundaries or speaking up doesn’t make you petty, dramatic, or immature.

This episode is part rant, part reframe, and a reminder that choosing yourself doesn’t mean you’re choosing conflict.

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