Criticism Disguised as Help: How Emotionally Immature Moms Use “Concern” to Control You

If your mom has ever said, “I’m just trying to help” while your stomach drops and your chest tightens… this episode is for you.

In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, Tandi breaks down how emotionally immature and narcissistic mothers use criticism disguised as concern to control, shame, and manage their daughters. We’ll talk about why she comments on your parenting, your body, your house, your life choices—and why it never actually feels supportive, no matter how “innocent” it sounds.

You’ll learn the psychology behind this pattern: identity enmeshment, image management, and externalized shame. We’ll walk through the telltale signs it’s not help but covert criticism, what happens when you confront her (hello, “you’re too sensitive” and DARVO), and how to finally trust your body ...