In this episode of The Internal Shift Show, Debbie Longo speaks with Zander Sprague about the devastating loss of his sister Lucy, who was murdered in 1996, and the emotional transformation that followed.

What began as overwhelming grief, depression, confusion, and emotional isolation eventually became a turning point that reshaped Zander’s life and direction. He openly shares the reality of sibling loss, the loneliness that often comes with unacknowledged grief, and the emotional impact of feeling invisible while others focused mainly on how his parents were coping.

Zander explains how difficult the early stages of grief were and how he became trapped in the cycle of asking “why did this happen?” repeatedly, searching for answers that would never fully come. One of the biggest internal shifts in his healing process came when he accep ...