What are the biggest issues dividing gay men and the LGBTQ+ community today? In this candid conversation, Tom welcomes therapist Michael Pezzullo back to explore some of the most controversial and complicated topics facing the community, from identity and language to monogamy, non-monogamy, substance use, masculinity, loneliness, and political division.

Michael and Tom discuss why some gay men identify as queer while others strongly prefer “gay,” and why people should have the freedom to define themselves on their own terms. They also explore the importance of differentiation: learning to coexist with people who hold different beliefs without feeling the need to change their minds.

The conversation then turns to monogamy and non-monogamy, including why both relationship structures deserve space within the gay community and how limited ...