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The Choose Yourself Channel

The Choose Yourself Channel

by Hakeem Bourne Mcfarlane

Self-Improvement Relationships

Season 2

🌠 Sara Byram - The Goal Line vs. The Soul Line

Who were you before the world started telling you who to be? In this episode of the Choose Yourself Channel, Sara Byram, spiritual teacher and energetic astrologist, joins us for a deep conversation about divine identity, spirituality, astrology, childhood conditioning, boundaries, self-worth, relationships, and the process of discovering who you are underneath years of programming. Sara shares her experience growing up in a strict Catholic household with a military father, navigating trauma and fear, and eventually experiencing what she describes as a spiritual awakening in 2019. That moment sent her searching through spirituality, astrology, human design, spiritual principles, and other modalities as she began questioning what she had been taught about God, love, relationships, and herself. But this conversation isn't about allowing astrology - or any belief system - to make your choices for you. We explore the danger of becoming dependent on external tools and why spirituality, religion, books, teachers, and astrology can provide information while you still have the responsibility to participate in your own life. Takeaways ⬇️ Childhood conditioning can create an identity that adulthood eventually asks us to question. Boundaries don't just keep people out.. they show people how to have a relationship with the person you're becoming. Astrology can be used as a tool for reflection without surrendering your free will to predictions or external circumstances. Self-worth isn't something money, relationships, achievements, or validation can permanently give you. Growth sometimes creates a “cocoon phase” where you're too grown for some old relationships but haven't found your new community yet. The goal line represents the things you want; the soul line represents the identity capable of receiving and sustaining them. Knowledge can create awareness, but wisdom requires actually embodying what you've learned. “Always remember that you are worthy and there's nothing external that can change that.” - Sara Byram 🔮 Connect With Sara Byrum Instagram & TikTok: @sbreeziii @celestialbridgeastrology https://www.instagram.com/celestialbridgeastrology/ Connect with Sara to learn more about her readings, spiritual work, and how she uses astrology as a tool for deeper self-awareness. 🐬 Grow With Us ⬇️ 🐬 CYC Zoom (Tuesdays 10 a.m.) 🏝️ Annual CYC Retreat 📖 Choose Yourself to Be Chosen 🎙️ Choose Yourself Channel

💊 Kendenn - Your Protein Powder Can't Fix Childhood Trauma

Heal Yourself Before You Try to Build Everything Else. Choose Yourself to be Chosen. Some people spend years trying to fix their finances, their relationships, or their careers… without ever asking if the real problem is the relationship they have with themselves. In this episode, we sit down with Kendenn, owner of Ultimate Nutrition Shop, coach, entrepreneur and bodybuilder.. for a powerful conversation about healing from the inside out. We unpack the connection between emotional health, gut health, sleep, hormones, stress, money, relationships, and the energy we bring into every area of life. Kendenn shares his journey through heartbreak, financial rock bottom, chronic pain, bodybuilding, and years of personal development that ultimately led him to realize something profound: you can have the physique, the discipline, and the habits but if you haven't healed your relationship with fear, you'll continue repeating the same cycles. This conversation explores the importance of choosing yourself first, understanding childhood conditioning, healing attachment styles, building foundational habits, and optimizing your health before chasing external success. We also dive into whole-food nutrition, gut health, supplementation, inflammation, and why investing in your body today is one of the greatest forms of preventative medicine. Takeaways ⬇️ Healing your relationship with yourself changes every other relationship. Fear keeps us stuck; faith and action move us forward. Your energy attracts what your mindset sustains. Sleep, stress, gut health, hormones, and inflammation all work together. Whole foods and simple habits outperform quick fixes over time. Choosing yourself isn't selfish—it's the foundation for contribution. At some point, we all have to stop asking... "Why does this keep happening to me?" ...and start asking... "What inside of me keeps creating the same outcome?" Transformation doesn't begin when your circumstances change.... It begins the moment you become willing to change the person creating them. "You can't heal the future while protecting the fears of your past." 🐬 Grow With Us ⬇️ 🐬 CYC Zoom (Tuesdays 10 a.m.) ❤️‍🩹 Gut Repair Solution 🏝️ Annual CYC Retreat 📖 Choose Yourself to Be Chosen

🥇 Ryan Billian - The Goal Was Never the Gold Medal

Authenticity Isn't Found, It's Revealed Some people spend their lives trying to become someone else… others realize the greatest transformation comes from uncovering who they already are. In this episode, we sit down with Ryan Billion - Olympic hopeful, performance coach, former Division I athlete, and mindset mentor - for a powerful conversation about identity, discipline, self-belief, and what it truly means to choose yourself. From navigating life after collegiate athletics to rebuilding his identity beyond sport, Ryan shares how chasing an Olympic dream taught him that success isn't found in medals or milestones... it's found in the person you're becoming along the way. We dive into purpose, authenticity, boundaries, visualization, self-awareness, addiction, and why the strongest relationships are built after you learn to build one with yourself. This episode explores the difference between external achievement and internal fulfillment, reminding us that confidence isn't something you're born with... it's something you earn every time you keep a promise to yourself. Takeaways ⬇️ Identity is built through daily commitments, not titles or achievements Self-belief grows every time you follow through on your word Authenticity is embracing every part of yourself—not just the comfortable parts Your environment quietly shapes your future through daily osmosis Replace destructive addictions with purposeful ones Visualization prepares the mind before performance prepares the body Boundaries create space for purpose to grow At some point, we all have to stop asking... "Who am I supposed to become?" ...and start asking... "Who am I when nobody else is watching?" The life you're chasing isn't built by waiting for motivation. It's built through the quiet decisions you make every day when no one is keeping score. "The only path to happiness is through the triumph of your principles." 🐬 Grow With Us ⬇️ 🐬 CYC Zoom (Tuesdays 10 a.m.) ❤️‍🩹 Gut Repair Solution 🏝️ Annual CYC Retreat 📖 Choose Yourself to Be Chosen 🎙️ Choose Yourself Channel

📻 Abby Murhpy - Delusional Enough to Try, Disciplined Enough to Build

Some people spend their lives waiting for certainty… others take the risk before they have all the answers. In this episode, we sit down with Abby Murphy - radio personality, creator, storyteller, and host of The Breakup Breakdown - for a conversation about self-belief, creativity, relationships, purpose, and the courage to build something before you know how it will turn out. From chasing a career in the entertainment industry to moving cities, reinventing herself, and helping others share their stories, Abby opens up about the power of storytelling and why creation is one of the most meaningful forms of contribution. We dive into the difference between belief and delusion, the importance of trusting your intuition, and why some of the biggest opportunities in life require you to bet on yourself before you have proof that it will work. We also explore the lessons Abby has learned from interviewing hundreds of people about breakups and relationships. From self-worth and boundaries to knowing when to walk away, this conversation highlights how the relationship with yourself sets the standard for every other relationship in your life. Takeaways ⬇️ Sometimes growth starts with a little healthy delusion and a lot of action Creativity is one of the highest forms of contribution Your intuition often knows the answer before your mind catches up Self-worth determines what you tolerate in relationships Great stories come from people willing to take risks Consistency matters more than inspiration At some point, we all have to decide... Are we going to keep consuming other people's stories— or start creating our own? The life you want isn't built in a single moment. It's built through hundreds of ordinary days where you choose to keep showing up. "An overnight success usually takes ten years." 🐬 Grow With Us ⬇️ 🐬 CYC Zoom (Tuesdays 10 a.m.) ❤️‍🩹 Gut Repair Solution 🏝️ Annual CYC Retreat 📖 Choose Yourself to Be Chosen 🎙️ Choose Yourself Channel

🇮🇪 Caleb McDonnell - From Rugby to Real Estate to Rice Bowls

You Are What You Consume - Food, Friends, Fear & Foundations Some people consume content all day and still wonder why they feel lost… others get curious, take action, and build an entirely different life from it. In this episode, we sit down with Caleb — “The Black Irish Realtor” — entrepreneur, food lover, athlete, realtor, and owner of Ideal Nutrition, for a hilarious and eye-opening conversation on identity, nutrition, business, culture, self-belief, and what it means to actually create a life instead of just consuming one. IG - @theblackirishrealtor From growing up mixed race in Ireland and struggling to fit in, to moving to America on a rugby scholarship with no blueprint, Caleb shares how curiosity, risk-taking, and staying authentic shaped his evolution. We dive into food quality differences between Europe and America, preservatives, health, entrepreneurship, and why most people are overcomplicating success instead of simply taking the next step. Between stories about selling perfume samples at school, working bars, selling cars, real estate, dogs taking over couches, and learning business from old Irish hustlers, this episode blends humor with real perspective on building resilience and multiple streams of income. This conversation is also a reminder that your environment matters. The people you surround yourself with, the food you consume, the content you watch, and the risks you’re willing to take all shape your future. Because choosing yourself isn’t just motivation—it’s learning how to create systems, routines, and opportunities that align with who you’re becoming. Takeaways ⬇️ Curiosity can become your career if you’re willing to act on it The food we consume impacts far more than just weight Your environment either expands your thinking or limits it Simplicity and consistency beat overcomplication Taking risks is necessary if you want a different life Real growth often starts when you leave your comfort zone At some point, we all have to decide… Are we going to keep consuming life passively or start creating something meaningful from what we’ve been given? Your story, your culture, your struggles, and your curiosity might be the exact ingredients needed to build your future. “Keep it simple. Start somewhere. Figure it out as you grow.” 🐬 Grow With Us ⬇️ 🐬 CYC Zoom (Tuesdays 10 a.m.) ❤️‍🩹 Gut Repair Solution 🏝️ Annual CYC Retreat 📖 Choose Yourself to Be Chosen 🎙️ Choose Yourself Channel

🧯 Joe Spector - Walking Through the Fire Without Becoming It

Some people spend their whole life avoiding discomfort… others walk through the fire and learn how to become stronger because of it. In this episode, we sit down with Joe Spector - ex-firefighter, speaker, emotional resilience expert, husband, and father... for one of the deepest conversations yet on trauma, identity, grief, emotional regulation, and what it really means to choose yourself when life completely falls apart. From being a police officer and fire captain to losing his career after a traumatic brain injury, Joe opens up about the spiral that followed: financial stress, grief, loss, emotional shutdown, family tension, and ultimately reaching a breaking point that forced him to finally face himself. This episode dives into the dangerous illusion of “having it all together,” especially for men taught to suppress emotions instead of process them. We break down the parallels between firefighting and life itself - learning how to prepare for adversity, regulate your nervous system under pressure, and stop bleeding unhealed pain onto the people you love most. From breathwork and therapy to parenting, faith, and rebuilding identity after loss, this conversation is packed with wisdom, humor, truth, and practical perspective for anyone navigating hard seasons. Takeaways ⬇️ You can be successful on the outside and still be suffering internally Choosing yourself is not selfish, it’s how you become dependable for others Emotional regulation is a skill set, not a personality trait Your children don’t just need provision… they need presence Everything you want in life is on the other side of your comfort zone Healing starts when you stop avoiding what hurts At some point, life stops asking how productive you are… and starts asking how prepared you are internally when everything changes. Because adversity doesn’t build character out of nowhere, it reveals the foundation that was already there... and sometimes the strongest thing a person can do… is finally ask for help then back it up with acceptance and accountability. CONNECT WITH JOE “You can’t keep bleeding on people who didn’t cut you.” 🐬 Grow With Us ⬇️ 🐬 CYC Zoom (Tuesdays 10 a.m.) ❤️‍🩹 Order THREE GRS 🏝️ Annual CYC Retreat 📖 Choose Yourself to Be Chosen 🎙️ Choose Yourself Channel

🍄 Thanecha - From the Projects to Purpose

Some people think choosing yourself is ego… but it’s actually returning to the version of you that existed before the world started programming you. In this episode, we sit down with Thanecha - creator, coach, and community builder whose story started in survival mode: homelessness, instability, and navigating life without a clear foundation... but what makes this conversation powerful isn’t just where she came from… it’s how she chose to rewrite what was possible. From overcoming a poverty mindset to stepping into creativity through music, fitness, and community, this episode breaks down what it really means to stay curious, stay open, and build your identity through experience instead of expectation. We dive into spirituality, inner child healing, relationships, and the power of setting boundaries because growth isn’t just about doing more… it’s about becoming someone who no longer tolerates what once held them back. Takeaways ⬇️ Your environment may shape you, but it doesn’t have to limit you Staying curious is one of the most powerful tools for growth You don’t need to know the full path—you need to take the next step Boundaries are a sign of self-respect, not selfishness Healing your inner child isn’t weakness—it’s responsibility At some point, we all reach a moment where we have to decide… Are we going to keep living from survival patterns or start creating from self-awareness? You’re not just your story… you’re what you choose to do with it. “You don’t need permission to become who you already are.” Grow With Us ⬇️ 🐬 CYC Zoom (Tuesdays 10 a.m.) ❤️‍🩹 Gut Repair Solution 🏝️ CYC annual Retreat (Sedona, AZ) 📖 Choose Yourself to Be Chosen 🎙️ Choose Yourself Channel

🐬 Amrita Singh - You Can Love Your Culture and Still Outgrow It

Everybody wants to break generational patterns but not everybody is willing to admit they’re still a part of them. In this episode, we sit down with Amrita, founder of Body by Mia and a powerful self-chooser from the CYC, who shares her journey of growing up between cultures, battling identity, body image, and expectations—and ultimately choosing herself. From being told who she had to be… to realizing she didn’t even know who she was… this conversation dives into what it really takes to break free from conditioning, face your triggers, and build a life aligned with your truth. From emotional eating to extreme self-restriction, from seeking validation to driving across the country alone.. Amrita shows what it looks like to stop performing and start becoming. But the real power is that she didn’t do it alone. Through the Choose Yourself Community (CYC), she found accountability, support, and a space where growth is expected not optional. A community where being triggered isn’t an attack… it’s an invitation to evolve. Takeaways ⬇️ You can’t break chains until you recognize what you’re connected to Your environment may shape you but it doesn’t have to define you Healing isn’t just physical: it’s mental, emotional, and spiritual The courage to leave comes from having a plan and executing it Community creates belief when your self-belief is still catching up At some point, you have to stop asking: “Who do they want me to be?” …and start deciding… “Who am I choosing to become?” Choosing yourself isn’t selfish, it’s how you become the example for everyone watching. “You don’t lose yourself overnight… you lose yourself in patterns... and you find yourself the same way.” Grow With Us ⬇️ 🐬 CYC Zoom (Tuesdays 10 a.m.) ❤️‍🩹 Gut Repair Solution 🏝️ Annual CYC Retreat 📖 Choose Yourself to Be Chosen 🎙️ Choose Yourself Channel

☕️ Angel - Create First. Doubt Never.

Some people wait for the perfect moment… others start building with whatever they have. In this episode, we sit down with Angel, owner of Benton Brew Coffee House, a creator, entrepreneur, and visionary who turned a 20-year dream into a real space for connection, creativity, and community. This conversation dives into what it actually looks like to choose yourself while still working a 9–5, balancing responsibilities, and investing into your vision daily. From selling magazines as a kid to creating studios, coffee lounges, and creative spaces, Angel shows that success isn’t about one big moment.. it’s about stacking checkpoints, discipline, and belief over time. We talk about the importance of routine, presence, and awareness, from something as simple as drinking water in the morning to being intentional with your time, your energy, and even how you eat because building your dream isn’t just about business… it’s about becoming someone who can sustain it. Takeaways ⬇️ Your dream doesn’t require you to quit everything, it requires you to use what you have wisely There isn’t always one “trigger point” ..growth is built through consistent checkpoints Presence is power! Whether in your work, your meals, or your relationships Your foundation (routines, discipline, awareness) determines your future You don’t need to know how you’ll get there but you must believe where you’re going At some point, you have to decide… Are you going to keep consuming life or start creating something from it? Your dream isn’t waiting on time… it’s waiting on you.

🐬 Tree Kadasyso - Straight From The Roots with

Some people go through trauma and stay stuck… others go through it and build something from it. In this episode, we sit down with Tree Kadayso - a powerful self-chooser, mother, and leader in the CYC who shares how her story of childhood trauma, abuse, and environmental challenges didn’t define her… it refined her. This conversation goes deep into what it really looks like to face your triggers, change your environment, and build a foundation strong enough to carry not just you but your family forward. From navigating generational patterns to raising kids with awareness, Tree shows that healing isn’t just personal… it’s legacy work. We talk about the moments where it would’ve been easier to fall back into old habits and how choosing yourself daily, through discipline and community, creates a completely different future.. because at the end of the day, your past may shape you but your choices define you. Takeaways ⬇️ Your trauma is real but it doesn’t get to run your life forever Awareness is the first step but action is what changes everything Your environment can either trap you or transform you The foundation you build today impacts your entire family tomorrow Choosing yourself is how you break generational cycles At some point, we all have to make a decision… Are we going to keep living from what happened to us or start building from who we’re becoming? Our story isn’t our limitation… it’s our responsibility. “You’re not your past… you’re your patterns ... and your patterns can change with you next choice.” Grow With Us ⬇️ 🐬 CYC Zoom (Tuesdays 10 a.m.) ❤️‍🩹 Choose Yourself, Heal Your Gut Webinar 🏝️ Costa Rica Retreat 📖 Choose Yourself to Be Chosen 🎙️ Choose Yourself Channel

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