Insults are attacks plain and simple. You must defend yourself against attacks, but being defensive is bully food. So what’s the difference between being defensive and standing up for yourself. That’s what we’re about to get into after

If you attack the content of the insult, that’s defensive. If you attack the person’s frame who just insulted you, that’s standing up to them.

By attacking the content of an insult but not the person who said it, you silently accept that person’s behavior toward you and their frame of mind--where they’re coming from. AKA their frame.

They keep thinking they’re good to go and you’re the chump who’ll take it, ready to dish the BF whenever they get hungry.

You have to stand up to THEM, NOT what they say and do.

We only defend what we believe is vulnerable. What the bully says about you sh ...