Here’s the idea behind this lesson: When it comes to dealing with the bully, see what you can get away with.

Whatever it is you’d do if you knew you’d win no matter what..do that!

Test and find out what you can get away with around people. You tell them you’re somewhat okay with losing them, or losing out in the situation.

When you’re willing to risk, you’re willing to lose, but remember people don’t take risks unless they think they’re more likely to win.

So what you really say in taking calculated risks is: I’m probably going to win.

In other words: I’m betting on me. I’m a winner. I have good judgment. The outcome means less than the attitude.

This winner’s attitude inspires others.

People love to see someone who doesn’t care and isn’t stressed. A rarity.

It may seem a little like giving up to ac ...