It’s amusing to be strategic and do things nobody expects. Helping your enemy strengthens your personal standards by putting them to the test. If you can be kind to a bully, you can be kind to anyone.

Helping your enemy also diminishes your self-importance and humbles you. For a minute your ego will kick and scream as you help the bully, but then it will relax, and the better part of you will win! You will call the shots over the small self that would have do damage in the form of reaction and retaliation. Showing kindness to a person you can’t stand is a practice in self-improvement.

But how does kindness kill bullying, as in kill ‘em with kindness? Kindness takes down your ego, but it takes theirs down too. Here’s why:

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