You Made It Worse by Being Nice. ...
You Made It Worse by Being Nice. Here's What to Do Instead.

Own The Room: How to Control Perception, Read the Room, and ... by Jake Stahl | Executive Presence & High-Stakes Communication

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Someone came at Jon hot. Furious. Loud. Probably unfair.

And Jon did what most reasonable people do. He got nice. He apologized. He gave away the store to make it stop.

It got worse.

The more he caved the harder the client pushed. By the end of the call Jon could hear it. The client had lost respect for him. Not because Jon made a mistake. Because Jon handed him his spine to make the noise stop.

This episode rebuilds that call line by line. Five moves. And every single one of them runs completely counter to what most people's instincts tell them to do in the moment.

Because defending yourself is a mistake. And appeasing is the exact same mistake wearing a different face. Both of them tell the other person their fire works. Both of them hand it oxygen.

The move is neither of those. And it's harder than it sounds ... 

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