Today's episode was prompted by the TV show "Pluribus" that we've been watching. It epitomized resistance vs. surrender.

I lived a lot of my life in a state of resistance, and I ended up mad about what I couldn't control, and at people who didn't seem to care enough about the same things.

It's not a healthy place to be, I've learned. And it's why I've come to accept more surrender in my life. I've learned, and it was a challenge, that the things in my life that I can control are pretty limited. There's so much that's out of my control, no matter how much I worry about it, complain about it, and fight against it. Mel Robbins famously writes about it in her book, "The Let Them Theory."

Living a life of surrender doesn't make you a doormat. It means you're going to choose what is yours to do today. It means you stop using energy t ...