How Lies Get In: Agreements, Vows, and the Invisible Architecture of Your Life Building on the prior episode’s discussion of inner healing, implicit memory, and neuroplasticity, Chariti explains how painful experiences are interpreted, assigned meaning, and turned into agreements, vows, and “ungodly beliefs” that feel like present truth and shape patterns in marriage, parenting, relationships, and faith. Using examples (a child shamed for emotions, marital shutdown, a child vowing never to love a pet again after loss), she shows how the brain’s negativity bias and priming keep survival strategies running into adulthood. Chariti outlines common lie categories (about self, others, God, and marriage) and how vows create protective walls that also block love. Hope comes through awareness, pausing to name what’s happening, and inviting the Holy Spirit ...