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Listen to my words

Listen to my words

by Ashlea Hoess

Self-Improvement Relationships

Season 1

Listen to my words. Episode 9: Pudendal Neuralgia and Interstitial Cystitis

Episode featuring Jenny Archer from Archer Physical Therapy Contact information below to work with Jenny and her team In this episode, we're shedding light on two conditions that often leave people feeling isolated, misunderstood, and desperate for answers: pudendal neuralgia and interstitial cystitis. If you've ever experienced pelvic pain, burning, urinary urgency, bladder pressure, pain with sitting, discomfort during intimacy, or have been told that "everything looks normal" despite knowing something isn't right, this conversation is for you. We'll discuss what pudendal neuralgia and interstitial cystitis are, how they can overlap, and why the pelvic floor often plays a much bigger role than people realize. You'll hear what it's actually like to work with a pelvic floor therapist, what treatment can involve, and why healing is rarely a one-size-fits-all approach. Most importantly, we'll talk about the emotional side of living with chronic pelvic pain—the grief, fear, frustration, and resilience that often go unseen. Whether you're navigating these diagnoses yourself, supporting someone you love, or you're simply trying to understand your body better, this episode aims to provide education, hope, and reassurance that you're not alone. In this episode, we'll cover: • What pudendal neuralgia and interstitial cystitis are • Common symptoms and how they may overlap • The role of the pelvic floor in chronic pelvic pain • What to expect when working with a pelvic floor therapist • How stress and the nervous system can influence symptoms • Treatment approaches and lifestyle considerations • The emotional impact of invisible illness • Finding hope and advocating for yourself throughout the healing process If this episode resonates with you, please share it with someone who may need to hear that their pain is real, their experience matters, and they deserve compassionate, comprehensive care. You are not broken. You are not alone. And while healing may not be linear, there is hope in finding the right support and learning to work with your body instead of against it. More on Jenny Archer: Dr. Jenny Archer, is a pelvic floor physical therapist, entrepreneur, and the founder of Archer Physical Therapy. Over the past several years, she has grown Archer PT from a solo practice into one of the leading pelvic health and concierge physical therapy providers in Middle Tennessee, with four clinic locations in the Greater Nashville area and a team of specialized therapists. Jenny’s practice is passionate about helping women, men, and children find answers to issues that are often overlooked or dismissed, while building a business centered on exceptional care, meaningful relationships, and lasting impact. www.archerphysicaltherapy.com

Listen to my words: Episode 9: Anxious and Avoidant Attachment

Featuring Jenny Archer from Archer Physical Therapy Contact information to work with Jenny and her team below In this episode, we're diving into the dance between anxious and avoidant attachment styles—the push and pull that leaves so many people feeling confused, rejected, and disconnected in relationships. Why does one person crave reassurance while the other needs space? Why do the same arguments seem to repeat over and over again? We'll explore how childhood experiences shape the way we give and receive love, how anxious and avoidant partners unintentionally trigger each other's deepest wounds, and what it actually takes to create a secure, healthy connection. Whether you've found yourself overthinking texts, chasing reassurance, pulling away when things get too close, or wondering why you keep attracting the same relationship dynamics, this episode is for you. We'll talk about recognizing your patterns without shame, understanding the fears underneath your behaviors, and taking practical steps toward becoming more secure in the way you love. Healing isn't about becoming someone else—it's about learning how to stay connected to yourself while building relationships rooted in consistency, safety, and authenticity. More on Jenny: Dr. Jenny Archer, is a pelvic floor physical therapist, entrepreneur, and the founder of Archer Physical Therapy. Over the past several years, she has grown Archer PT from a solo practice into one of the leading pelvic health and concierge physical therapy providers in Middle Tennessee, with four clinic locations in the Greater Nashville area and a team of specialized therapists. Jenny’s practice is passionate about helping women, men, and children find answers to issues that are often overlooked or dismissed, while building a business centered on exceptional care, meaningful relationships, and lasting impact. www.archerphysicaltherapy.com

Listen To My Words: Episode 8: Building a business. Building my brand

WITH THE AMAZING WHITNEY CANTRELL Whitney Cantrell is a business strategist, marketing consultant, and creative growth partner who helps female entrepreneurs build thriving businesses through clear messaging, authentic storytelling, and practical growth strategies. GO TO THE BOTTOM TO LINK UP AND WORK WITH WHITNEY* Building this business has been one of the greatest acts of self-discovery I've ever experienced. People think building a brand is about followers, content, and strategy. But what no one tells you is that it forces you to confront your fears, trust yourself, tolerate being misunderstood, and show up before you feel ready. I didn't start this business because I had all the answers. I started it because I was willing to be honest about the questions—about self-worth, relationships, boundaries, and what it means to stop abandoning yourself in order to be loved. If there's one thing I've learned, it's this: You don't have to become someone else to build the life you want. You don't have to earn your worth or wait until you feel fearless. You simply have to begin. Because sometimes the thing you're building isn't just a business. It's yourself. WHITNEYCANTRELL CONSULTING INFORMATION After spending a decade in sales, marketing, fundraising, and events, Whitney launched a solo doula practice that grew into Nashville’s first full-service doula agency, leading a team of more than 30 birth professionals and serving hundreds of families. Today, she helps entrepreneurs simplify their marketing, clarify their vision, and grow businesses that feel both profitable and aligned. In this episode, Whitney joins Ashlea to discuss the strategy, mindset, and marketing principles behind Ashlea’s incredible business growth. Whitney Cantrell Digital Marketing | Strategy | Consulting whitneycantrellcoaching.com @whitneycantrell.co

Listen To My Words: You Keep Dating Different People… But Ending Up in the Same Relationship

Why does it feel like no matter who we date, we end up in the exact same relationship? In this episode, we explore the unconscious patterns, wounds, and programming that drive our romantic choices — and how to break free. This is the conversation about doing the deep work so you stop attracting the same story in a different person.

Episode 4: Avoidant Attachment – Why They Pull Away & How It Affects Love

In this episode, we’re diving into avoidant attachment — one of the most confusing relationship dynamics in modern dating. Why do some people come on strong, then suddenly distance themselves? Why do they struggle with emotional closeness, shut down during conflict, or seem interested one minute and detached the next? We’ll unpack how avoidant attachment is often rooted in past wounds, emotional conditioning, and fear of vulnerability — not always a lack of feelings. You’ll learn the signs of an avoidant partner, how this dynamic impacts anxious partners, and the cycle that keeps both people stuck. We’ll also talk about how to protect your peace, communicate effectively, and stop chasing unavailable love. If you’ve ever felt confused by mixed signals, hot-and-cold behavior, or someone who can’t seem to let you in, this episode is for you.

Listen to my words: Episode 3: The games people play

Listen to My Words is a raw and insightful podcast that breaks down the games men and women often play in modern dating and relationships—especially when someone wants the benefits of connection without the responsibility of commitment. From mixed signals, breadcrumbing, future faking, love bombing, emotional unavailability, keeping options open, and disappearing acts, this podcast uncovers the behaviors people use when they’re interested in attention more than something real. Hosted by Ashlea Hoess, each episode helps listeners decode confusing dynamics, recognize red flags, protect their self-worth, and navigate dating with more confidence and clarity. Learn how to stop investing in people who only want convenience, identify genuine intention, and understand the psychology behind attraction, avoidance, and power plays. If you’ve ever asked yourself “Why do they act interested but never commit?” or “How do I stop repeating these patterns?”—this is where honesty meets strategy.

Listen to my words Episode 2: Moving relationships along quickly

Why does something that feels like intense love in the beginning sometimes turn into pressure, confusion, or heartbreak? In this episode of Listen to My Words, Ashlea Hoess explores the reality behind love bombing—when affection, attention, and fast emotional escalation create the illusion of deep connection before true trust is built. We’ll unpack why some people rush relationships forward, how to recognize the difference between genuine interest and manipulation, and the red flags to watch for when a connection is moving too fast. If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s real love or just the rush of being chosen, this conversation will help you slow down, protect your heart, and date with clarity.

How I became HER: My Story, My Standards, My Self-Worth

This episode is a raw and honest look into my life—where I’ve been, what I’ve been through, and how those experiences shaped the woman I am today. For a long time, I found myself stuck in patterns that left me questioning my worth, especially in relationships. I gave too much, accepted too little, and didn’t fully understand the role I was playing in my own story. Everything began to change when I turned inward. In this episode, I share the struggles, the wake-up moments, and the growth that led me to rebuild my self-worth and completely shift how I show up in dating. Because the truth is, the way you navigate relationships is a direct reflection of how you see yourself. This isn’t just my story—it’s a reflection for anyone who’s ever felt confused, overlooked, or stuck in cycles they can’t seem to break. If you’re ready to understand yourself on a deeper level, raise your standards, and start choosing yourself in a way that changes everything—this episode is for you.

Listen to my words: Episode 5: Anxious Attachment

This episode dives into the emotional intensity of anxious attachment—what it feels like, where it comes from, and how it shows up in your relationships. If you’ve ever felt like you’re “too much,” constantly overthinking texts, or needing reassurance just to feel okay, this is for you. We break down how anxious attachment isn’t a flaw—it’s a pattern rooted in fear of abandonment and inconsistent love. But when left unchecked, it can lead you to chase people who trigger your anxiety instead of choosing people who create safety. The second half of the episode shifts into a powerful truth: just because you feel strongly about someone doesn’t mean they’re right for you. You’ll learn how to recognize when someone is not meant for you, including: You feel more anxious than secure You’re constantly questioning where you stand Their effort is inconsistent or conditional You’re over-explaining your needs just to be understood You feel like you’re “waiting” for them to choose you This episode challenges the idea that love should feel like emotional chaos. Instead, it reframes love as something steady, safe, and mutual.