Faith & Feels

Faith & Feels

by Rika Lopez
Season 1
Ep.57 What Does Healthy Masculinity Look Like? with Paul Ho
In this 57th episode of Faith & Feels, I sit down with Paul Ho from El Pozo de Vida, an anti-human trafficking organization in Mexico, for an honest conversation about what healthy masculinity looks like through the lens of faith. Together, we explore how our identity as sons of God shapes the way men lead, love, and live. Paul shares his personal journey of healing, the impact of his relationship with his father, and how embracing vulnerability and emotional honesty became part of his transformation. We also discuss the difference between healthy and toxic masculinity, the importance of mentorship and community, and why Jesus is the ultimate model of strength, humility, and compassion. Whether you're a man pursuing personal growth, someone who loves and supports the men in your life, or you're simply curious about what biblical masculinity really looks like, I hope this conversation encourages you to embrace your identity in Christ and reminds you that true strength is found in humility, authenticity, and grace. More info: www.elpozodevida.org Key Topics: -What healthy masculinity looks like through faith and vulnerability -Personal stories of healing and identity -Biblical examples of compassion and emotional expression -The importance of community and mentorship for men -Addressing toxic masculinity and its roots in cultural and spiritual issues Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to the episode and guest 01:17 Paul Ho shares his background and work in Mexico 04:10 The spiritual and secular streams of justice work 06:33 Paul’s marathon as a metaphor for healing and identity 08:57 The healing power of a letter from Paul’s father 13:38 God’s message: Just be my son 16:58 The biblical view of masculinity and Jesus’ example 22:20 Healthy masculinity modeled by Jesus 30:02 The impact of toxic masculinity and cultural pressures 33:10 Mentorship and community in developing healthy masculinity 39:25 The importance of emotional awareness and vulnerability 45:01 Processing emotions and coping mechanisms 50:20 Acknowledging behaviors and personal growth 55:46 The role of personal responsibility and grace 01:00:16 Closing thoughts and blessings *Pixabay Music : "Waterfall" and "Viacheslavstarostin"
Ep.56 Holding Grief, Holding Hope
In this deeply personal episode, my husband Henry shares the story of losing his father and the days that followed. Together, we reflect on the reality of grief, the gift of being present with loved ones, and how faith can sustain us through life's hardest goodbyes. This isn't a conversation filled with easy answers—it's an honest look at sorrow, hope, and the ways God meets us in our pain. Whether you're grieving a loved one, walking alongside someone who is, or simply navigating a season of loss, we hope this conversation reminds you that you're not alone. There is space for tears, for questions, and for hope—even in the midst of heartache. Resources: "Footprints in the Sand" Poem "Waymaker" "King of Kings" "Amazing Grace" Worship Songs Matthew 17:20 (ESV) "He said to them, 'Because of your little faith. For truly, I say to you, if you have faith like a grain of mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, "Move from here to there," and it will move, and nothing will be impossible for you.'" Luke 23:42–43 (ESV) And he said, "Jesus, remember me when you come into your kingdom." And he said to him, "Truly, I say to you, today you will be with me in Paradise." *Pixabay Music: "Viacheslavstavrostin Music" and "Christian Instrumental"
Ep.55 Connection Over Shame: Talking to Kids about Sex and Porn with Kristen Whitmore
In this episode of Faith & Feels, I sit down with Kristen Whitmore for a heartfelt conversation about parenting, sexuality, pornography, and the importance of creating safe and honest conversations with our children. Together, we explore why parents play such an important role in initiating these discussions, navigating the awkwardness that can come with them, and helping children develop healthy understanding and connection rather than shame. We also talk about personal experiences, sexual brokenness, emotional safety, and the impact shame can have on both parents and children. Kristen and I discuss the importance of understanding trauma, fostering emotional connection within families and relationships, and equipping kids to navigate today’s culture with wisdom, honesty, and grace. Throughout the episode, we emphasize that parents do not need to approach these conversations perfectly—just intentionally, openly, and with compassion. We also reflect on the role of faith, community, and the church in supporting families through these often difficult but deeply important conversations. Recommended Resources: www.protectyoungeyes.com http://www.youtube.com/@WithThePerrys https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-sexual-trauma-and-gods-design-with-dr-juli-slattery/id1458672189?i=1000761065464 "Sex, Sexual Trauma, and God's Design with Dr.Julie" Podcast *For info on Kristen Whitmore, visit www.renewchurchoc.com www.renewchurchoc.com/meet-the-staff Books to Read with Kids on Sex, Porn, Our Bodies: Good Pictures Bad Pictures by Kristen Jenson 7 Lessons to Introduce Your Child to Biblical Sexuality by Luke Gilkerson God Made All of Me by Justin and Lindsey Holcomb *Pixabay Music: "In Plus Music" and "Viacheslavstarostin" Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Faith in Fields 01:39 The Importance of Open Conversations about Sexuality 04:00 Personal Experiences with Sexual Education 09:19 Establishing a Safe Space for Discussions 15:35 Navigating Awkwardness in Conversations 21:24 Addressing Pornography and Its Impact 25:17 Understanding Shame and Vulnerability 28:12 Navigating Shame in Parenting and Sexuality 30:03 Exploring Sexual Trauma and God's Design 34:51 Understanding Sexual Brokenness in Youth 38:15 Unmet Sexual Needs and Masculinity 42:07 The Importance of Emotional Connection 46:55 Creating Safe Spaces for Conversations 51:03 Finding Community and Support in the Church
Ep.54 Connecting to Teens Through Curiosity : A Conversation with Joshua De La Cruz
In this episode, I sit down with Joshua De La Cruz, an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, to talk about what teens are really facing in today’s digital world. We explore everything from video game overuse to the deeper emotional needs underneath behavior, and how parents can show up with more curiosity, authenticity, and compassion. Josh shares practical insight on building stronger relationships with teens and creating spaces where they feel seen, understood, and supported. If you’d like to connect with Josh or learn more about his work, you can visit www.delacruztherapy.com. Takeaways: Joshua De La Cruz is passionate about supporting teens. Video game addiction is a common issue among teens. Building connections with youth requires compassion and curiosity. Understanding the underlying needs behind addiction is crucial. Parents often seek therapy out of desperation. Creating a safe space for teens to express themselves is vital. The importance of creativity in youth cannot be overlooked. Relationships with young clients can be deeply impactful. Parents should approach their teens with authenticity and humility. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Faith & Feels 01:54 Meet Joshua De La Cruz: A Journey into Mental Health 07:03 Understanding Teen Challenges in a Digital World 11:17 The Impact of Video Game Addiction 18:44 Building Compassionate Connections with Teens 22:07 The Importance of Creativity in Youth 27:14 Valuing Relationships with Young Clients 35:47 Advice for Parents: Connecting with Teens *Pixabay Music : "Viacheslavstarostin" "In Plus Music"
Ep. 53 Hope for the Man in Recovery with Dr. Kervins Clement
In this episode of Faith & Feels, I sit down with Dr. Kervins Clement, CSAT, founder of Clement Counseling and Consulting who is trained in sex addiction, Gottman Method, EFT, and EMDR. We dive into a profound conversation about the intersections of trauma, sexuality, and healing. We talk about the concept of eroticized rage, the complexities of shame in sexual experiences, and the importance of self-compassion in the healing journey. Dr. Clement shares his insights on reclaiming sexual identity and intimacy, and we discuss the need for more open and honest conversations about sexuality within the church and beyond. We close the episode with encouragement for those in recovery, talking about the importance of doing the work for yourself and recognizing that healing is a continuous journey. Resources: https://www.youtube.com/@DrKervinsClement Takeaways: Today's episode includes sensitive topics around sexual health and trauma. Eroticized rage is when feelings of anger become intertwined with sexual arousal. The body responds to sensations without choosing what's right or wrong. Shame can complicate the understanding of sexual arousal in trauma survivors. Healing involves reclaiming one's sexual identity and desires. Self-compassion is crucial in the healing process. Conversations about sex should be normalized to reduce shame. Recovery requires hard work, accountability, and ownership. You are not your addiction; focus on your health and well-being. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Healing and Faith 01:48 Meet Dr. Kervins Clement: Background and Expertise 09:02 Understanding Eroticized Rage 19:44 Navigating Shame and Trauma in Sexuality 27:40 Reclaiming Sexual Identity and Intimacy 39:25 The Importance of Self-Compassion 46:22 Encouragement for Those in Recovery Pixabay Music : "In plus Music" "Viacheslavstarostin"
Ep. 52 Sex and Love Addiction in the Church - The Full Conversation ( With Pastor Wilson & Kristen)
(*Fully Updated Version from Episode 44) In this eye opening and honest conversation, I’m joined by Kristen Whitmore and Pastor Wilson Wang from Renew Church on the SOLA Leaders Podcast to talk about a topic the Church often avoids — sex and love addiction. Together, we explore the reality that many believers silently struggle with pornography, shame, and relational brokenness, and why creating safe, grace-filled spaces for these conversations is essential for true healing. I share my personal journey into becoming a therapist and how my own story shaped my passion for integrated healing — where faith, emotional health, and relationships come together. In this episode, we unpack the difference between sexual addiction and love addiction, the deeper longing for connection and approval beneath these patterns, and the ripple effects pornography has on individuals, marriages, and mental health. We also talk about why accountability, community, and honest discipleship are key to recovery — and how the Church can move from silence to support. Most importantly, this conversation is a reminder that no one is beyond hope. Freedom, transformation, and wholeness are possible when we step out of isolation and into the light. If you’ve ever felt stuck in shame, longed for deeper healing, or wondered how the Church can respond with both truth and compassion, this episode is for you. *This episode belongs to Sola Network Leaders Podcast. For more info, visit www.sola.network.com Recommendations: www.joinrelay.app www.sherecovery.org www.puredesireministries.org www.fightthenewdrug.com www.sa.org Books: "Beyond the Porn Phenomenon" by Barna Report "Unwanted" by Jay Stringer "Facing Love Addiction" by Pia Mellody *Pixabay Music : "Viacheslavstarrostin" Sound Bites: "This podcast is for those who love Jesus." "We talk about sex and love addiction in the church." "Sex addiction is a hidden and prevalent sin." "Love addiction stems from abandonment." "We want to normalize these conversations." "We need accountability to fight this fight." "The opposite of addiction isn't sobriety, it's connection." "There's hope, there's transformation available." "You are not alone in this struggle." Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Faith in Fields 01:34 Exploring Sexual and Love Addiction 02:57 Rika's Journey to Therapy 11:12 Understanding Love Addiction 13:54 Bringing Conversations to the Church 16:46 Creating Safe Spaces for Women 19:32 The Role of Accountability in Recovery 23:21 Engaging in Conversations about Sexual Addiction 28:09 Statistics on Sexual Addiction 31:17 The Damaging Effects of Pornography 34:11 The Importance of Connection in Recovery 39:37 Words of Hope for Ministry Leaders
Ep. 51 Chit Chat with Me & the Hubs
Happy New Year 2026 Everyone! This episode is just a casual conversation with me and my husband, Henry. We’re sharing a little about what life has been like lately, a goal we have for the new year, and some encouraging moments from our journey with therapy and God. Sit back, relax, and just hang out with us. I’ll be posting once a month now (with maybe an occasional surprise bonus episode). I’m hoping to preserve more energy for my personal relationships, my spiritual community, and a few side projects. Thank you for walking alongside me. I hope these conversations continue to bring you small doses of joy and encouragement. *Resources mentioned : www.fullyhealth.org "Run to the Father "Worship Song by Cody Carnes Pixabay Music : "Calm Soft Music"
Ep. 50 A Pause and A Thank You
In this milestone 50th episode of Faith & Feels, I pause to reflect with gratitude on this journey and the community that has grown alongside it. As 2025 comes to a close, I share briefly how this year shaped me—through public speaking opportunities that stretched my confidence, a car accident that became a spiritual wake-up call, and deeper lessons about living intentionally rather than reactively. This episode is less about achievements and more about alignment—being rooted in Christ, tending to what matters most, and listening for God’s gentle guidance in the quiet moments. I also share why I’ll be shifting to monthly episodes in 2026, creating space for sustainability, deeper connection, and new creative expressions. Whether you’ve been here since the beginning or are just tuning in, this episode is an invitation to reflect, slow down, and consider what it means to live anchored in your identity in Christ while investing intentionally in the relationships and callings God has placed before you. Thank you for being part of this journey—truly. **Special shout out to all my guests for your generous time in sharing your heart, passion, and courage!! Many of you were so vulnerable in sharing your personal stories so thank you from the bottom of my heart for your bravery!!!God was and is glorified thru each of your testimony!!
Ep.49 When Faith Meets Betrayal Trauma with Gina Kaye
In this episode of Faith & Feels, I sit down with Gina Kaye for an honest and courageous conversation about betrayal trauma and the role faith can play in the healing journey. Gina shares her story of discovering her ex-husband’s hidden struggles with addiction, walking through the pain of divorce, and slowly rebuilding her life after everything she thought was secure fell apart. Together, we talk about the deep impact of betrayal trauma, why specialized support and safe community are essential for healing, and how often faith spaces lack the language and structure to care well for those in crisis. Gina also speaks to the ways betrayal can shake one’s faith, especially for women who feel unseen or silenced in their pain. This conversation is for anyone who feels lost, overwhelmed, or unsure where to turn. Gina’s story is a reminder that healing takes time, help matters, and you deserve to find your voice. You are not alone—and there is hope. Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussion of betrayal trauma, addiction, and divorce, which may be activating for some listeners. Please take care of yourself and pause or skip this episode if needed. Resources: Gina's email address - gina.kaye@bai.care www.beginagaininstitute.com Support groups for partners of a porn/ sex addict - sanon.org/find-a-meeting/ To get info on certified sex addiction therapists directory - www.iitap.com To get info on Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional training - https://iitap.com/general/custom.asp?page=PSAP *Pixabay Music : "Exciting Day" and "Interesting Motivational" Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Faith in Feels Podcast 01:45 Gina K's Journey Through Betrayal Trauma 06:06 Understanding Addiction and Seeking Help 10:45 The Importance of Specialized Support 18:26 Navigating Divorce and Rebuilding Life 22:12 Life After Divorce: Finding Purpose 30:24 The Role of Faith in Healing 32:07 Encouragement for Women in Pain 34:01 Church's Role in Addressing Addiction 39:19 The Complexity of Addiction and Recovery 44:10 Finding God in the Mess 50:41 Conclusion and Resources
Ep.48 The Gift of Spiritual Direction with Josh Mun
In this episode of Faith and Feels, I sit down with spiritual director Joshua Mun to explore how spiritual direction can deepen our emotional and spiritual well-being. Together, we unpack the ancient roots of spiritual direction, how it differs from therapy, and how it helps us discern God’s presence—especially in seasons of anxiety, overwhelm, or transition. We also discuss using positive imagination in spiritual practices, navigating political and cultural conversations within faith communities, and creating safe spaces for honest reflection. The episode closes with a gentle prayer, inviting listeners to rest and reconnect with God. If you're interested in pursuing spiritual direction, please email Josh at joshua.mun@biola.edu Takeaways: -Spiritual direction helps individuals notice God's presence in their lives. -It differs from therapy by focusing on spiritual growth rather than diagnosing mental health issues. -Creating safe spaces for dialogue is essential in addressing difficult topics. -Spiritual direction can be a powerful tool for those struggling with mental health. -Honesty and humility are crucial in engaging with political conversations within the church. -Spiritual practices can help strengthen one's relationship with God. -The power of spiritual direction lies in pointing individuals back to God. -Spiritual direction is becoming increasingly popular in evangelical spaces. -Anger and other emotions can be explored in a spiritual context. -God delights in each individual and rejoices over them. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Faith in Fields 02:02 Meet Josh Mun: A Journey into Spiritual Direction 10:46 Understanding Spiritual Direction vs. Therapy 19:23 Navigating Mental Health in Spiritual Direction 29:07 Creating Safe Spaces for Difficult Conversations 43:20 Closing Reflections and Prayer 49:48 Conclusion and Invitation to Spiritual Direction *Pixabay Music: "Exciting Day" and "Worship Piano Instrumental"
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