You were probably told your impulsivity was selfish. That you jumped in, overshared, or said yes too fast because you weren't thinking about anyone but yourself. This episode makes the case, with the research to back it up, that the opposite was usually true.

Dr. Regina McMenomy, Ph.D. talks about the science behind how impulsivity has different motivations than we assumed. For a lot of late-diagnosed neurodivergent adults, impulsivity got filed under "character flaw" early and somewhere along the way you decided you were the problem and built a mask to manage it. But the science tells a different story about what that impulse was actually reaching for: connection.

2013 study: Low Self-Control Promotes the Willingness to Sa ...