E11: The Gap and the Gain: The High Achiever's Guide to Happiness, Confidence and Success
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Episode notes
3 Lessons đź’ˇ
1) Measure yourself backwards, not forwards
- Start = where you were 90 days ago
- Achieved = what you’ve actually achieved in the last 90 days
- Ideal = where you wish you were
- You’re in the GAP every time you measure yourself or your situation against an ideal
- Being in the GAIN means you measure yourself backward, against where you were before
- Every experience can be viewed as a GAIN in some way (even really really hard ones)
- Transform negative experiences into lessons
- Every experience can be viewed as a GAIN in some way (even really really hard ones)
- Being in the GAIN means you measure yourself backward, against where you were before
- You’re in the GAP every time you measure yourself or your situation against an ideal
- Can continue measuring your gains on a weekly or monthly basis
2) Contrast the GAP and the GAIN
- The GAP is based on an unhealthy “need” or attachment to something outside of yourself. GAP  ...Â
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