Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 62: Maintaining Contact With A Birth Mother Open adoption often begins with promises and commitments on behalf of the birth mother and adoptive parents.  Open adoption often begins with promises and commitments on behalf of the birth mother and adoptive parents.  When a Post Adoption Communication Agreement is entered into the Adoption Court Records, and the state in which the adoption is finalized has laws making the Post Adoption Communication Agreements legally enforceable.           This can cause confusion and feelings of loss on behalf of the adoptive family, who may have genuienly wanted to have a close relationship with the birth mother of their child.  Dreams and promises may have been made to stay in close contact and have get togethers, phone calls and email exchanges.  This may cause concern ...