Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, 221: Holding a Marriage Together When an Adoption or Fertility Treatment Doesnt Work Out Steps to Take to Preserve Your Marriage Factors that have a negative impact on marital success, happiness and cohesion after the unsuccessful journey to become parents: Grieving the loss of their dreams and expectations of having childrenstillborn births and miscarriages The blame gameThe relationship or spouse may be a reminder of childlessness.Tension / Anxiety / Stress / Depression / Social IsolationInsecurity of Fertility IssuesOne spouse wants to stop trying and the other spouse does not   Agree on a Plan to ParenthoodKeep your Plan to Parenthood between the two of you and agree not to consult family and friends on their thoughts or opinions.  Understand that you and your spouse may not process grief or st ...