What was your response the last time you received an unexpected compliment?


Did you instantly downplay it? Deflect it entirely? Or maybe you even quickly criticised yourself or your achievement is a desperate self-deprecating act that not only made you look bad, but likely made the compliment-payer feel a bit stupid too.

What about when someone asks you to do something you really don’t want to do. How do you respond? The people-pleasers amongst us will instantly say yes, no matter how undesirable or inconvenient the request. Why? Because the fear of letting someone, even a stranger, down is simply too much to bear, even if it means hours, days or weeks of anxiety over the impending event.

Being a people-pleaser. Public acts of self-deprecation. Never being selfish with your time, even when you really need just a minute to yours ...