di David Thompson & Sherie Christensen
David and Sherie talk about betrayal trauma and the long-term effects, a request from a listener, and where this concept leads us. We talk about the effects but also consider the impact of how our beliefs and the tendency to swing to the other end of the pendulum when hurt can complicate things. The narrative we adopt really influences where healing and reconciliation goes. Listen to learn more about how we conceptualize this important issue, including being careful to respond well in order to really consider and heal the relationship.
David & Sherie now talk about 5 things that men need from their partners, or what tends to make men feel the most fulfilled in relationships. We talk about mens' needs including recreational companionship, sexual fulfillment, admiration, domestic support, and an attractive spouse. Listen as we go through each and break them down!
David & Sherie talk about 5 things that women need from their partners, or what tends to make women feel the most fulfilled in relationships. We talk about mens' needs in the next episode. These include things like affection, conversation, honesty and openness, financial support and family commitment.
David & Sherie talk about the challenge of having extreme beliefs about recovery and relationship frustrations, and how to avoid that. This includes misusing words like narcissism, abuse, boundaries, or safety. Using these words out of context to justify control or ever greater boundaries is not going to be helpful to either recovery, or relationships.
David & Sherie finish talking about addiction recovery and specifically how to be more focused doing recovery when struggling with ADHD or ADD, We then summarize so you have a simple, bigger picture perspective about how to do recovery if also struggling with ADHD. As a summary, these things are important: Incorporate treatment for both ADHD and addiction Keep recovery conversations shorter and more frequent Using lists and visual aid or reminders Clear structure with flexibility Good medication management Adapt mindfulness practices
David & Sherie continue talking about addiction recovery and specifically how to be more focused doing recovery when struggling with ADHD or ADD, What things will help, and what is different? Listen to learn more!
David & Sherie talk about addiction recovery and what is different and how to recover more effectively when struggling with ADHD or ADD, something we see a lot of in our offices. If you suspect you or your partner may struggle with this, these episodes will really be helpful!
Sherie does a body scan mindfulness meditation in this week's episode. Prepare to relax and listen to what she shares and we hope you enjoy it time and time again!
David & Sherie talk about FANOS, which is an acronym and a way for couples to check in daily and stay close and connected. It's especially helpful when overcoming addiction and creates accountability and honesty. It stands for Feelings, Affirmation, Needs, Ownership, and Sobriety or Spirituality. We go into detail on these and help you to know how to do it going forward.
David & Sherie talk about some very basic principles every couple should use, and can solve 95% of your relationship issues. From John Gottman, these skills include: 1. Express feelings using “I” statements 2. Use a softened start up 3. Stay Calm and Regulate Emotions 4. Turn Towards and Make and Keep Bids for Connection 5. Practice Repair Attempts 6. Accept Influence