In this episode, we talk about what happens when trauma goes unhealed inside a marriage—and how it begins to affect not just the person carrying it, but the spouse who loves them.

This conversation explores the reality of being in therapy without truly healing—when sessions become a performance instead of a practice, and therapeutic language is used to explain pain rather than repair it.

We discuss:

How unhealed trauma shows up as defensiveness, control, shutdown, or chaos
What it looks like when a spouse is “doing therapy for show”
Being more attached to chaos than to peace
Using therapy language to avoid accountability
How emotional pain transfers to the partner
Why a spouse may start acting out, withdrawing, or changing “out of nowhere”
The difference between boundaries and avoidance
Why effort without behavior change still causes harm

This episode is not about blaming or shaming.

It’s about responsibility, honesty, and impact.

Because trauma may not be your fault—but how it affects your partner becomes your responsibility.

also talk about:

How therapy should show up at home, not just in sessions
Why peace can feel unsafe when chaos is familiar
What real healing actually looks like in a relationship
And why love alone isn’t enough without accountability

If you’ve ever felt like:

You’re healing while your partner is stuck
You’re being hurt under the disguise of “mental health work”
Or you’re in therapy but avoiding the hardest parts

This episode is for you.

Healing isn’t about sounding healed.

It’s about changed behavior, repair, and growth.

This episode may be emotionally heavy. Take breaks as needed, and listen with compassion—for yourself and others.

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