YOUR refusal to take ownership of YOUR insecurities is causing you to constantly try and control your partner. Not only that but it is absolutely draining always looking for 'proof' that they are up to something, because of the 'fact' that you are clearly not good enough.I know because i've been there!'She could be with someone far better than me, what do I have to offer?!' Was what I used to believe about myself.After the breakdown of my second relationship 6 years ago I started to notice a pattern...The way I felt about myself had created the same result in both of my previous relationships!I realised that if I wanted to create a different result, then I had to start taking responsibility for the way I felt about me.One of the most powerful questions I asked myself was 'what kind of partner do I want to be?' We all struggle with the relationship w ...