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The Reinvention Diaries

The Reinvention Diaries

di Michelle Wright & Nicola Auckland

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Who do you choose?

Michelle and Nicola talk about the hidden cost of always putting yourself last — and why choosing yourself isn't the same as choosing against someone else. In this episode: Sleepless nights, low motivation, and the "safety/doorknob" fart game their kids play Wardrobe edits: Michelle's continuous decluttering vs. Nicola's 'overflowing' closet Why society teaches us that "selfish" is bad and being helpful/accommodating is praised The hidden costs of chronic self-neglect: eroded self-worth, plummeting confidence, resentment How caregiving roles (home and work) train us to put everyone else first Childhood conditioning: sharing, "don't be selfish," and watching caregivers sacrifice for others Why parenting has become more child-centric over generations — and what that means for choosing yourself Lost hobbies: the things we give up once we become parents/caregivers and never pick back up Learning to say no — practicing "no" as a complete sentence Money, guilt, and spending on yourself vs. everyone else (including grown kids not paying rent) Dress how you feel: why "loungewear at home" still affects your confidence Saying no to free work requests and educating people who ask creatives to work for free Small, non-dramatic ways to choose yourself: hobbies, clothes, turning off your phone, a solo afternoon Weekly rock/roll: a wholesome kids' cooking class shoot and trying out an Oura ring Ted Lasso hype and a Hannah Waddingham crush This week's challenge: Find one place in your life where you're putting yourself last — and make one small choice this week to put yourself first instead. Connect with us: Email: studio@thereinventiondiaries.co.uk, Instagram: @thereinventiondiariespodcast Website: reinventiondiaries.co.uk (find out how to be a guest!), www.mrsstylewright.com, www.nicolaaucklandphotography.co.uk

Are you still following the rules?

Michelle and Nicola are back, and this week they're picking up where July left off — questioning the rules we live by, who made them, and what happens when you decide to stop following them. After catching up on a night out at a Conservative Club (surprisingly cheap gin and tonics), headshot sessions, and the joys of elastic laces and reformer Pilates, the conversation turns to something deeper: the paths we end up on versus the ones we actually wanted. In this episode: What happens when you recognise you've been living on autopilot — in your job, your relationships, your wardrobe, even your friendships? The pressure to follow "expected" milestones: school, uni, career, family — and what it costs when those don't fit Michelle's daughter's brave decision to forge her own path after GCSEs — and why the school wasn't exactly helpful The education system debate: is one size really fitting all? (Spoiler: Andy Burnham thinks not) Michelle opens up about the life she might have had — working in fashion in London — and Nicola reflects on her dream of joining the police forensics team Why small changes matter: you don't have to blow up your life to start doing things differently Dressing for who you are now, not who you were 20 years ago The difficulty of ending friendships that no longer serve you Sliding Doors, masking, snap decisions vs. slow thinkers, and the ripple effect of one big choice Question for our listeners: Have you ever chosen a different path from the one everyone expected? Or is there a path you've been quietly thinking about — but haven't taken yet? What's stopping you? Get in touch: 📧 studio@thereinventiondiaries.co.uk 📸 @thereinventiondiariespodcast If you enjoyed this episode, please follow the podcast and — pretty please — leave a review. It means the world (and yes, they'll know if you write it yourself).

The Rules We Live By

Michelle and Nicola are back after a break – and neither of them actually switched off! They catch up on their very different holidays (Michelles's all-inclusive in Rhodes vs. Nicola's dog-friendly walks on the Yorkshire coast), before diving into a topic that came straight from Nicola's holiday reflection: the invisible rule book we all live by. In this episode: Why Nicola worked every single day of her "holiday" – and what she's learned from it Nicola's epic 11-hour train journey to Birmingham (and why the car would have been better) The post-holiday motivation slump – and how Claire Lockey's Skills Bootcamp Summer Social reignited their spark Holiday planning: Japan, Rome, 50th birthdays, and why next year is a very big year The invisible rule book – unwritten rules we follow without question: We should always reply quickly We should always be productive We should grow our business We should always be available We should keep our houses tidy We should have a five-year plan We should wear age-appropriate clothes We should be grateful and stop wanting more The big question: Who actually made these rules? Why do we follow them – and what happens if we just... stop? The one rule they'd delete forever: Nicola: The guilt around resting – why do we feel we have to be doing something, even on holiday? Michelle: Women constantly apologising for how they look – from roots to messy houses to no makeup Your challenge this week: Complete the sentence – "I've realised I don't actually have to..." Some examples from conversations with women: ironing everything, answering messages immediately, wearing makeup, losing weight, hustling, saying yes to everything, being constantly available. The takeaway: Reinvention doesn't always mean adding something new. Sometimes it starts with asking: "What if I just stopped following that rule?" Get in touch: 📧 studio@thereinventiondiaries.co.uk 📱 Instagram: @thereinventiondiariespodcast 🌐 thereinventiondiaries.co.uk www.nicolaaucklandphotography.co.uk www.mrsstylewright.com If you enjoyed this episode, please follow, like, and subscribe so you never miss a new episode.

Time to break those habits?

Ever wondered which habits you picked up at the start of your business are quietly holding you back? This week Michelle and Nicola dive into the habits that sneaked in at the beginning — and why some of them need to go. In this episode: The caffeine conversation: why one of them runs on decaf and the other turns into Speedy Gonzales on a flat white Networking in Sheffield — plus a car that decided to need oil AND petrol on the same journey Undercharging and the imposter syndrome trap: why so many business owners start cheap and never put their prices up The danger of pricing by copying competitors (and undercutting by a fiver) Knowing your cost of doing business — and why "just enough to cover expenses" isn't a business plan The employee mindset: still feeling like you should be at your desk 9–5 even when you work for yourself Overpromising and underdelivering — and how to fix it by managing your own timeline expectations Resisting new technology (yes, including AI) — the Blockbuster lesson Social media as a habit vs. a strategy: post-and-pray isn't a marketing plan What would you do if social media didn't exist? Leaflets, PR, radio, and the pre-social marketing methods you've forgotten about The guilt of not working — and why it's worse when it's your own business than when you were employed Not taking proper breaks during the day (and what the Pomodoro Timer actually is) Get in touch: 📧 studio@thereinventiondiaries.co.uk 📱 Instagram: @thereinventiondiariespodcast www.nicolaauckland.co.uk www.mrsstylewright.com

Is your life on autopilot?

In this episode, Michelle and Nicola record from Michelle's kitchen (their studio days are behind them — for now), amid the chaos of early mornings, a daughter heading off on holiday, and a husband conducting what may or may not have been a performance review with the washing machine. What we talk about: Living on autopilot Do you still structure your life around school holidays even though you don't have to? We explore how deeply ingrained habits — ones formed when the kids were small — continue to quietly run our lives long after they're relevant. From avoiding August like the plague to treating September as a fresh start, we're all living by a bell we can't even hear anymore. The summer holiday myth If your target market isn't teachers or parents of school-age kids, why are you writing off August? We challenge the assumption that "everyone's away" and ask whether we're missing a golden window of opportunity. Nicola shares her plan to launch exclusive summer holiday colour and mother-daughter sessions to test the theory. Autopilot in everyday life It's not just the calendar. Michelle unpacks the habits she runs on autopilot: being the default parent, the dishwasher stacker, the washing-line perfectionist, and the woman who cannot leave the house until she has personally watched the bags go into the car. Nicola reveals she never sets an alarm — and Michelle's brain nearly explodes. Control freaks: born or made? Is your need for control a coping mechanism, a personality trait, or just what happens when you've been carrying the mental load for two decades? We talk about the fine line between helpful control and accidentally raising adults who can't pack their own suitcase... at a reasonable hour... before their flight. Packing rituals, washing lines, and other battlegrounds Vacuum-packed skiing clothes, shoes stuffed with socks, duvet covers that must hang square on the line — if any of this is speaking to your soul, you are not alone. Get in touch: Are you a control freak? Do you still live by the school term calendar? We want to hear from you. 📧 studio@thereinventiondiaries.co.uk 📱 Instagram: @TheReinventionDiariesPodcast www.nicolaaucklandphotography.co.uk www.mrsstylewright.com

Is it just me? Do you ever think that you're the only one?

Welcome back to The Reinvention Diaries, the podcast where Michelle and Nicola talk to women about reinvention, rediscovery, and regaining confidence. In this episode: After a chaotic start (wrong recording day, a dog with dental surgery, and a studio move looming), Michelle and Nicola dive into this week's theme: "Is It Just Me?" — questioning the expectations and milestones that society quietly (and not so quietly) imposes on us. Topics covered: 🔄 Not wanting to grow your business – Is it okay to be content with the status quo? Michelle and Nicola push back on the constant pressure to scale, earn more, and hustle harder. Sometimes ticking along nicely is exactly the right choice. 👶 The assumption of children – Inspired by Greg James and his wife's very public stance on choosing to be child-free, the pair explore how society still assumes everyone follows the same life milestones. 💼 Not wanting to climb the career ladder – Maybe your current role fits your lifestyle perfectly. Maybe that's the point. 🏖️ Travel on your own terms – You don't have to visit every landmark. Sitting on the beach near the Colosseum counts too. ⚖️ Not wanting to lose weight – Celebrating body autonomy and the bravery it takes to say "I'm happy as I am." 🌿 Missing being bored – Remember just... waiting? Without scrolling, podcasts, or constant input? Michelle and Nicola make a case for reclaiming genuine downtime. 🏖️ Retirement on your own terms – From Nicola's low-maintenance retirement plan to Michelle's "I've just started, baby" energy — what does retirement actually look like when it's designed around your life? Personal updates: Nicola's dog survived his dental procedure (phew!) Nicola's studio move is imminent — and she's reframing it as an exciting pivot A tarot card reader may have predicted it all Is it just you? Michelle and Nicola want to hear from listeners bucking the trend. Are you happy where you are? Not climbing, not growing, not conforming — and perfectly fine with it? 📧 studio@thereinventiondiaries.co.uk 📱 Instagram: @thereinventiondiariespodcast www.nicolaaucklandphotography.co.uk www.mrsstylewright.com

Modern Etiquette - what's your take?

Michelle and Nicola are back for a wide-ranging chat about modern life, modern manners, and whether technology is quietly disconnecting us all. In this episode: 🌡️ The Great British Heatwave – The girls kick things off with the week's big talking point: extreme heat, red weather warnings, schools closing, trains without air con, and the joys of cold supermarkets. Plus, Nicola reveals her obsessive (and mostly genius) method for keeping her house cool. 🎂 Birthdays & B-roll – Nicola celebrated turning 49 while photographing a wedding (yes, she got cake). Michelle went to see Toy Story 5 – verdict: watch it at home. Then they debate celebrity encounters, famous birthday twins, and give a review of Tom Grennan's latest show. 📱 Modern Etiquette – the main event: Michelle and Nicola tackle the big questions around how we communicate and connect today: Voice Notes – love 'em or hate 'em? Both land on love, but with caveats: long ones are a task, unsolicited ones from strangers feel intrusive, and from a business perspective, nothing beats written communication. Headphones – great for focus, but are they disconnecting us from the world? Michelle finds it sad seeing parents tuned out with toddlers. Michelle confesses to always keeping one ear free. Streaming vs. Live TV – have we lost the joy of watercooler moments? Binge culture is convenient, but weekly releases might be bringing conversation back. How we message – texting, WhatsApp, email, Snapchat... what's appropriate and when? And should your boss ever WhatsApp you? Out-of-hours contact – both agree: no. If you must send it, schedule it – or at least add "no reply needed." 📺 What's rocked our world: Michelle is obsessed with Channel 4 drama Tiptoe – jaw-dropping, hard-hitting, and the lead character is, apparently, a bit of a dick. Join the conversation: 📧 studio@thereinventiondiaries.co.uk 📸 Instagram: @thereinventiondiariespodcast www.nicolaaucklandphotography.co.uk www.mrsstylewright.com The Reinvention Diaries is the podcast for women navigating reinvention, rediscovery, and regaining confidence.

What have you missed while you were waiting?

Michelle and Nicola open with their usual warm, unfiltered banter before diving into this episode's big theme: the opportunities we let slip by because we're always waiting for the "right" moment. What we talk about in this episode: Turning 50 and the unexpected tiredness that comes with the birthday comedown Why your 50s (and beyond) might actually be your best decade – wisdom from an 80-something dog walker The social media ban for under-16s: why Michelle and Nicola are fully in favour, and the parallel with opportunities lost to doom scrolling The big theme: What are you waiting for? Losing weight, feeling more confident, having more money, more time, being younger... the list of excuses we use to put life on hold Why your inner critic is different from your gut instinct – and how to tell them apart The woman who hasn't had her photo taken in 10 years: what it really costs us to stay invisible Saving for a retirement that may never look how you imagined – a sobering thought Our homework this week: writing a list of everything we've been waiting to do, and how long we've been waiting A shoutout to listener Emily B., who pushed through the wobbles and ran her own event – and how good it feels on the other side The kindness corner: one act of active unkindness, one forgotten act of kindness Get in touch: Email: studio@thereinventiondiaries.co.uk Instagram: @thereinventioniariespodcast www.nicolaaucklandphotography.co.uk www.mrsstylewright.com

Does Confidence Come With Age?

The Reinvention Diaries – Birthday Reflections and Real Talk Michelle and Nicola are back, and this week there's a milestone birthday to celebrate — Nicola has just turned 50! Join them for a candid, funny, and refreshingly honest conversation about what it really means to hit a big birthday, and why it might just be something to embrace rather than dread. In this episode: Michelle's birthday week (and why her voice is a bit rough) Nicola's first holiday in the new caravan — including an unexpected encounter with Irish travellers and some fascinating people-watching The Clarkson's Farm rabbit hole, angry farmers, and the silage tank revenge story Why 50 doesn't feel old anymore — and what "old" even looked like when we were kids The anti-ageing industry, extreme cosmetic procedures, and the cascade of tweakments (it's like getting your lounge decorated...) Marilyn Monroe's actual measurements, the 34-24-34 "ideal," and the Special K pinch-an-inch madness What we'd tell our younger selves: find kind people, ditch perfection, eat better, and stop caring what others think Why we're done apologising for who we are Saying no — and why it gets so much easier with age The shed quarters update: spare room it is, for now Random acts of kindness on holiday (a short list, but a heartfelt one) Get in touch: 📧 studio@thereinventiondiaries.co.uk 📸 Instagram: @thereinventiondiariespodcast, www.nicolaaucklandphotography.co.uk, www.mrsstylewright.com If you enjoyed this episode, please follow, share, and leave us a review — it really does help!

Body Confidence - Are You Bikini Ready?

The Reinvention Diaries – Episode: Body Confidence & Summer Skin In this episode, Michelle and Nicola dive into one of the most relatable topics around: body confidence as the warmer months arrive. What happens when the cosy layers come off and the pressure to "look good" kicks in? In this episode, we talk about: Grounding and why putting your bare feet on the grass might actually be good for you The anxiety that comes with summer – shedding layers, exposing skin, and all those "jiggly bits" The most common body part women (and men) want to hide – and it might surprise you Why body image issues run much deeper than just fashion choices, affecting self-worth, social confidence, and the occasions we allow ourselves to enjoy How men experience body image pressure differently – and why that silence can make it harder The "boil in the bag" reality of chub rub shorts – we've all been there Why you should trust your first impression in the mirror and stop checking every angle The truth about photos: nobody is looking at you the way you're looking at yourself Being tagged in photos and the 21st century dread that comes with it Why the women who avoid every photo are the ones missing from their own family memories Stop postponing your life until you're "fixed" – because who decides when that is? The liberating reality of the "no fucks given" era A gentle nudge to get in the photos, hit the beach, and show up for your life as you are right now Random act of kindness this week: Be kind to yourself. Get in touch: 📧 studio@thereinventiondiaries.co.uk 📸 Instagram: @thereinventiondiariespodcast, www.nicolaaucklandphotography.co.uk, www.mrsstylewright.com We'd love to hear from you – does body image hold you back in summer? Drop us a message. No names needed.

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