Most of us learned to say “I’m fine” long before we understood what it was costing us. In Episode 11 of The Original Self Podcast, Evet DeCota shares how a childhood bone disease, the loss of her best friend, and a love she was too armored to fight for all shaped her into someone who buried her feelings so deeply she eventually stopped feeling them altogether.

Then she’s joined by Jackson — her 17-year-old nephew — in one of the most honest conversations this podcast has ever held. Jackson lost his mother to colon cancer at fifteen, watched his family fracture in the aftermath, and spent years hiding behind humor, performance, and a persona built to keep people from getting too close. His first serious relationship cracked something open in him that grief alone couldn’t. And in this episode, he finally says it out loud.