Dating apps feel like visual noise — and it’s not your imagination. In this episode of The Connection Audit, Kirsten and Blake unpack why the attention economy rewards peacocking (motorbikes, gym mirrors, luxury flex, aggressive poses) while women are screening for warmth, safety, and emotional regulation. We break down the ‘mistranslation’ problem: men signal competence; women read risk — creating cognitive-load burnout for women and a rejection feedback loop for men. Then we audit the fix: the Two-Second Rule (safe / neutral / on-guard), the ‘feeling intention’ exercise, and a 5-photo Trust Stack (clear face, honest full-body, ‘doing life’, warm social proof, values-in-context). We also do a caption makeover — swapping ‘no drama’ and ‘prove you’re real’ for accountable, consent-led language. Audit actions: run your lead photo through t ...