Who are you… When the roles you’ve lived in start to change?

This episode of Secret Life of Therapists with Dr. Habiba and Coach Debra explores how identity isn’t fixed; it evolves across the lifespan. Careers shift, relationships change, children grow up, bodies age, losses happen, and the version of you that once felt solid can start to feel unfamiliar.

The conversation looks at how these transitions can feel unsettling, even destabilizing, because we often tie our sense of self to roles: partner, parent, professional, caregiver, achiever.

When those roles change, the question becomes: Who am I now?

Rather than seeing these moments as crises, the episode reframes them as opportunities for reflection, growth, and intentional identity rebuilding.

Big takeaway: identity isn’t something you find once; ...