In this conversation, Mistress Audry Lu Black and Sydney the Fat Troublemakr delve into the complexities of grief within polyamorous relationships, particularly focusing on the often unacknowledged and deferred grief that arises from losing a partner. They discuss the societal expectations surrounding grief, the lack of resources available for those navigating loss in polyamorous contexts, and the importance of creating systems to ensure that loved ones are informed in the event of a tragedy. The conversation emphasizes the need for open discussions about planning for the unexpected. They discuss the importance of memory and legacy, and the unique challenges faced when navigating grief with metamours. They also highlight the significance of believing in grievers' experiences and the importance of creating tangible memories of lost loved ones.