How to handle a difficult family: Jason cuts contact with parents after years of trying to please them (ft. Debra Maldonado)
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We often think the hardest part of a difficult family relationship is the other person, their control, their criticism, their refusal to see us as who we have become. So we set a boundary, or in the more painful cases, we go no contact, and we tell ourselves that once the contact stops, the pain will stop too. But the relationship rarely ends where we think it ends. It continues quietly inside us, in the patterns we picked up as children just to stay safe and loved, and in the parts of ourselves we still cannot see even after the phone calls have stopped. In this episode, we sit with 'Jason', a man who cut off his parents after years of trying to please them, only to find that the deeper work was still ahead of him. Shagun is joined by veteran coach Debra Maldonado, co-founder of Creative Mind, to explore Jung's concept of the mother complex, the imago we build of the people who raised us, and the uncomfortable shadow work of realizing that the control we resent in someone else might be a pattern we are carrying too.
- 00:00 Introduction
- 01:49 Debra's journey: Quitting the corporate world, practicing hypnotherapy, and finding a home in coaching
- 11:19 Coaching session with Jason: Controlling parents, sibling dynamics, disrespecting boundaries
- 42:08 Coaching session breakdown: Mother complex, shadow work, and the desire for control
ABOUT THE HOST: Shagun Chopra is an individuation coach, speaker, and educator. Her unique approach combines Jungian depth psychology with ancient Vedic wisdom to create the ultimate personal transformation. She supports professionals, entrepreneurs, and creatives in bringing their wildest dreams to life and leapfrogging their career, business, and relationships. To learn more, visit shagunchopra.com
ABOUT THE GUEST: Debra Berndt Maldonado left the corporate world in 2003 to pursue her passion to empower others to live their dreams. She is a Certified Master Jungian Life Coach Instructor, TEDx Speaker and author of LIKE A SPARK FROM FIRE (CreativeMind Media 2022) and the bestselling book, LET LOVE IN (Wiley 2010). Debra has been featured by ABC News, ABC Radio Network, FOX News, NBC News, WB2, Cosmopolitan, Natural Health, Huffington Post, YourTango, Publisher’s Weekly, Complete Woman, and more. She can be found at https://creativemindlife.com
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