Emotional Energy Spiral
Not Another High Conflict Divorce
How I Started My First Youtube Channel
It's Post-Separation Legal Abuse, Not Conflict
From Trust to Betrayl: A Lesson in Relationships
The Power of Resilience: An Author's Journey
In this episode, Loraine Marshall delves into the topic of the emotional energy spiral and how to navigate through challenging times. She discusses the different emotions that can either uplift us or drag us down, and provides practical steps to dig ourselves out of a black hole of negative emotions. Loraine emphasizes the importance of recognizing and acknowledging our emotions, practicing self-compassion, reaching out for support, engaging in self-care, and challenging negative thought patterns. She also addresses the specific challenges faced by those who are unsupported and isolated, as well as individuals who have experienced emotional or financial devastation. Loraine offers guidance on rebuilding and changing our thinking to create a more positive and fulfilling life. KEY TAKEAWAYS Recognize and acknowledge your emotions: It is important to acknowledge and accept your feelings without judgment. Understand that it is natural to experience ups and downs in life and it's okay to feel overwhelmed or stuck at times. Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding. Recognize that everyone goes through difficult periods and you are not alone in this. Be patient and gentle with yourself as you work through your emotions. Reach out for support: Don't hesitate to lean on others for support. Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist about what you're going through. Sharing your thoughts and emotions can provide relief and gain a different perspective on your situation. Engage in self-care: Prioritize self-care activities that help you relax, recharge, and uplift your spirits. This could include exercise, spending time in nature, practicing mindfulness or meditation, journaling, listening to music, or engaging in hobbies you enjoy. Set achievable goals: Break down your tasks and responsibilities into smaller, manageable goals. Accomplishing these smaller goals can help you regain a sense of control and accomplishment, boosting your emotional well-being. BEST MOMENTS "If you've been financially devastated, consider professional guidance or financial recovery." "Unfortunately, it can be a bit of a postcode lottery, as I'm sure many of you will affirm, as I know from experience and the experience of many other women." "I used positive affirmations to help me out of a dark place." "You may be caught up in conflict and court battles that you do not want and cannot get out of." "Remember, it all takes time to process and recover and rebuild. Try to be kind to yourself and seek support when needed." HOST BIOLoraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In this podcast episode, Loraine delves into the topic of high-conflict divorces and separations, emphasizing that they are not just ordinary breakups. The episode explores how individuals with high-conflict personalities can wreak havoc on someone's life, destroying their reputation, self-esteem, and even their career. Loraine discusses how post-separation abuse can occur when involved with such personalities, whether through divorce, abandonment, or the abrupt termination of a cohabiting relationship. The episode also highlights the differences between normal and high-conflict situations, shedding light on the compulsive escalation of disagreements and the manipulation tactics used by high-conflict personalities. Loraine also touches on the signs of abusive relationships and the challenges faced by individuals seeking justice for emotional and psychological abuse. Overall, this episode provides valuable insights into the complexities and devastating effects of high-conflict divorces and separations. KEY TAKEAWAYS High-conflict personalities can have a devastating impact on your life, reputation, self-esteem, and career. Post-separation abuse can occur after a relationship ends, and it can involve emotional, financial, and even litigious attacks from high-conflict personalities. High-conflict individuals compulsively escalate disagreements, often moving the goalposts and twisting facts to their advantage. Red flags to watch out for in high-conflict personalities include quick anger escalation, emotional immaturity, and a tendency to blame others for their actions. Ending a relationship with a high-conflict personality can be particularly challenging, as they may not show empathy or act in a kind and considerate manner, potentially leaving the other person emotionally, psychologically, and financially devastated. BEST MOMENTS "There are people who can ruin your life and they will destroy your reputation, your self-esteem or your career." "In a normal situation at the end of a relationship, most of us try to resolve or diffuse conflicts, but people with high conflict personalities compulsively escalate disagreements." "They may have experienced the speed at which the person can go from charming and nice to nasty and verbally abusive." "Other warning signs include how quickly anger can escalate. They can go from having a normal conversation to being completely enraged at the speed of lightning." "With a high conflict personality type, they will have no qualms about leaving a partner or spouse in emotional, psychological and financial devastation." HOST BIOLoraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In this episode, Loraine Marshall shares her personal journey of starting a YouTube channel in April 2021. She opens up about the challenges she faced after the abrupt termination of her relationship in August 2020, including grief, fear, uncertainty, and trauma. Loraine discusses her attempts at mediation and the failure of those efforts. With limited income and savings, she explores different ways to earn money and decides to create short affirmational videos on her YouTube channel. Despite finding solace in creating these videos, Loraine reflects on the ongoing legal battles and the threat of eviction she continues to face. The episode concludes with Loraine sharing one of her early affirmational videos on morning gratitude statements. KEY TAKEAWAYS The speaker started a YouTube channel in April 2021 as a way to cope with the grief and uncertainty following the termination of a relationship. The speaker faced financial challenges and had to find ways to earn income, leading them to create short affirmational videos on their YouTube channel. Despite the positive impact of creating these videos, they did not change the speaker's situation, as they lacked legal representation and faced difficulties in negotiating a settlement. The speaker shared a personal experience of being threatened with eviction and the challenges they faced in the Spanish court system. The speaker emphasized the importance of gratitude and shared a morning gratitude statements video as an example of the content they created on their YouTube channel. BEST MOMENTS"I had no idea how I could move forward or what I could do." "I was actually threatened with being thrown out onto the streets." "No evidence was put forward and I wasn't allowed to speak." "You cannot negotiate with me. You cannot negotiate a gift." "I am grateful for the abundance of the universe." HOST BIOLoraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In this episode, titled "It's Post-Separation Legal Abuse, Not Conflict," Loraine delves into the topic of toxic relationships and the ongoing abuse that can occur even after separation. Loraine shares her personal story of being in an emotionally abusive relationship and the challenges she faced when trying to navigate the legal system. From threats and intimidation to manipulation and coercive control, she highlights the ways in which abusers seek to punish their ex-spouses or partners. The episode sheds light on the complexities of toxic relationships and the need for awareness and support for survivors. KEY TAKEAWAYS Toxic relationships can continue even after separation, as abusers may seek to harm and control their ex-spouse or partner through legal means. Emotional abuse can be difficult to recognize, as the speaker only realized they were in an emotionally abusive relationship two weeks after their partner left. The abuser used intimidation and angry outbursts to control and manipulate the speaker, even threatening to leave them homeless if they didn't comply. The abuser constantly changed the terms of any agreements or negotiations, making it impossible for the speaker to reach a resolution or find a fair solution. The speaker's journey to seek justice and tell their story highlights the challenges faced by victims of abuse in navigating the legal system and finding vindication. BEST MOMENTS"Abusers torment their exes through courts in all forms of coercive control post-separation." "I had already been subjected to intimidation when he had angry outbursts towards me." "I was fearful of him and his behavior. He had blasted out his anger, and I was being told to watch my step." "I was accused, blamed, belittled. He even said, 'we don't communicate terribly well and you have a habit of grabbing some idea and running off with it without stopping and thinking about it.'" "I have written my book to show how despite elaborate laws on domestic abuse and gender violence, the victimized often do not see justice." HOST BIOLoraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In this podcast episode, Loraine reflects on her journey to find love after the death of her partner. She shares her belief in writing down goals and desires, including the qualities she wanted in a new relationship. However, as she navigates the world of online dating and explores alternative dating websites, she encounters unexpected challenges and revelations. Loraine delves into her experiences with BDSM and the importance of informed consent in those encounters. As the episode progresses, she begins to realize that the man she thought was her friend, lover, and soulmate may not be who he appeared to be. Loraine reflects on the red flags she missed and the lessons she has learned about trust, honesty, and self-discovery. KEY TAKEAWAYS Loraine experienced a period of confusion, grieving, and fear after the death of their partner, which is a common response to major life transitions. She believed in the power of writing down goals and desires, including what they wanted in a future relationship. Loraine engaged in online dating and explored alternative dating websites, including one focused on BDSM. Loraine met her next partner, who had a history of being a serial adulterer and had health issues, but she was initially impressed by his honesty and felt a connection. She later realized that she had missed important qualities in her list, such as a healthy partner, and learned about red flags and the importance of informed consent in BDSM relationships. Loraine also discovered the love-bombing phase of narcissistic abuse. BEST MOMENTS"I have believed in writing down my goals and what I wanted to achieve." "It was no different for me... Sleepless nights and restlessness all add to the stress of the situation you find yourself in." "I was chatting with more than 10 guys... Whenever I would go online to chat, I would have four or five conversations going at the same time." "I discovered that shock horror... He was still married... She called herself Slave Sena." "I felt safe and secure with him... I felt cared for... I felt he was my friend, lover, and soulmate." HOST BIOLoraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In this podcast episode, Loraine shares her personal journey of writing a chapter in a collaborative book. She reflects on the difficult circumstances that led her to embark on this writing project, including the sudden end of her relationship and the emotional turmoil that followed. Loraine opens up about her experiences of grief, anxiety, and betrayal, and how she found the strength to overcome them. She also discusses her determination to bring about change and break stigmas surrounding mental illness through her writing. This episode offers a glimpse into Loraine's resilience and her ongoing pursuit of healing and empowerment. KEY TAKEAWAYS The speaker experienced a sudden breakup in August 2020, which inspired her to start writing a book. She joined a collaborative book project called "Faces of Mental Illness" and wrote a chapter about an experience she had at 27 years old. The speaker went through a period of intense emotional pain and trauma after her partner confessed to seeing another woman, but she found ways to cope and heal. The speaker faced challenges in her property settlement with her ex-partner, including broken promises and manipulation. Despite the difficulties, the speaker remains determined to achieve her goals, including educating and inspiring others through her book and YouTube channel. BEST MOMENTS"I remember saying to him that evening that I was going to write my book." "I had all the different emotions of fear, anger, hurt, disappointment." "He wanted me to accept that he could have a double lifestyle." "I put the hashtag on that video as truthbomb." "He did not treat me with basic human decency." HOST BIOLoraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Mindset, Money, Success is a Podcast aimed at discovering what it takes to be successful. I believe that you can’t become successful unless you have the right mindset. What do you think? I will be talking with entrepreneurs to discover their secrets to success. First up chatting to Single, Sexy, and Successful Women. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.