Mind Hacks for Quitting Porn
Stagione 1
Scarcity
Love vs Lust
Blindness with Our Eyes Wide Open
Sexual Drive
Pain
Stress
Breaking the Rules
Honesty
Facing Failure
All or Nothing Thinking
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di Stephen McConnell
Why does it seem like we can never get enough? Like the need for sex is incredibly hard to satisfy. This idea is what we call "scarcity thinking" that drives us to seek out porn, even when we don't want it. We talk about the antidote in today's episode.
People over the ages have tried to describe the concepts of love and lust in countless ways. But when we're trying to quit porn, what are the most useful ways to define these concepts? Let's move from someone who passively experiences these emotions into the driver's seat of our lives.
Can we find the courage to more fully examine the cost of porn in our lives, including things that we didn’t realize that we were missing out on? Being aware of these hidden benefits of quitting porn increases our motivation to quit.
Is intense sexual drive overwhelming your desire to quit porn? Do you feel at the effect of it, and long to be in the driver's seat? In this episode, we take a look at the science of sexual drive. We consider what that reveals about our path to quitting.
Pain can be a boon or bane, it all depends on how you manage your brain. Pain can seem to span physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual dimensions. This episode focuses on what we can practically learn from it.
Stress is the ultimate evil, right? The cause of all our problems... or so we've been told. But where did that narrative actually come from? Was it science, or pseudoscience? What if the secret to a more full, happy life isn't the successful avoidance of stress, but rather, the cultivation of the capability to face it head on without fear? If so, how do we start to manage stress in a way that isn't so... stressful?
We have a lot of rules in our society. Rules around sex. Rules around porn. Often, other people created the rules and we just kind of went along with it. So how do we know when it's okay to change the rules? And whether it's safe to do so? Let's talk about rules that are meant to serve you rather than the other way around.
You may have heard that honesty is crucial for recovery. This episode clarifies how and why. Pessimism often masquerades as honesty, but it's not nearly as helpful as some would like to believe. I explain why. Also, hear examples of what a good and bad porn confession sounds like.
Have you lost count of how many times you've failed to quit porn? Are you noticing a common thread of failure in your life? It's human nature to fear that we'll never escape. That these failures somehow define us. But letting go of these failures may be easier than you think.
Too often, we chase perfection thinking that our lives will be complete, fulfilled, and have a purpose when we finally arrive. But, to the surprise of those who seek it, overly striving for perfection usually leads to none of those things. To be human is to be imperfect. Welcoming that reality allows us to rediscover what actually matters to us. Find more help at gratefullifecoaching.com