Matters of the Heart
Stagione 1
di Kimberly S. Davis, Ed.D.
If you are wondering what steps you can take to achieve and maintain clarity and control when living single, you have to focus on what you are "fueling your engine", which is your "heart". What are you feeding your mind daily? What activities are you considering minute that actually have significant influence on your decisions and lifestyle? Remember that you have to do something different if you want a different result.
In today's society, we have lists for almost everything, including what we desire in a spouse, significant other, boyfriend/girlfriend, partner, etc. However, it is important that we also evaluate ourselves and consider who we are and what we bring to the table. I encourage you to create a list for who you plan to be or become as a spouse, significant other, partner, etc. and think about the value you want to bring into their lives. Whether you have made the list or not, stay in faith and keep working on being a reflection of who and what you desire in a companion.
This question is for my single people…. If you had to choose between sex and clarity during your dating stage, which would you choose? I believe there are sacrifices that we have to make sometimes in order for us to gain what we deem valuable. It looks different for each individual so we have to do some soul-searching to determine what keeps us in a state of uncertainty, confusion, stress, unhappiness, stagnation, etc. and choose to do something different. Not everyone will understand your choices but remember it’s not about pleasing others but about choosing You and the right person or people will understand, support, and even stay.
Stop being your own barrier to growth, progress, change, opportunity, purpose, etc. Release control and the need for approval or validation from people, take a step/leap of faith, and allow God to do His thang.