Ep. #8 - Why Parenting Doesn't Have to be a Power Struggle

In today’s episode, Kelly is addressing the reality that healthy parenting is not about power, control, and instant obedience; we are not made to have power over our kids. We are made to be in community, connection, and partnership with them.

Here are three ways to remove power struggles from parenting:

1. Choices

   1. Give lots of choices about things you care nothing about.

   2. Letting them pick inconsequential things will feel like a win to them.

   3. We want them to experience freedom.

2. Freedoms

   1. Freedom does not mean all bets are off.

   2. We are going to hold very firm boundaries.

   3. We want them to know themselves.

   4. “Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.” -Prentis Hemphil

   5. Let your child have freedom to play within the integrity of your parenting.

3. Help and Contribution

   1. Let your kids help.

   2. Helping allows them to think “I get some control here.”

   3. Adjust your expectations to the child’s abilities.

4. Bonus suggestion - Motivate with fun!

   1. We are made for abundance.

   2. Allow each kid a day to set the schedule, choose the food, the activities, etc.

   3. Connect with your kids.

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