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insyed; cozy psychology

insyed; cozy psychology

di Syed Imran Al-Hasyir

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Episode One Is Supposed to Be Bad (And Other Excuses I Called Perfectionism)

It started with a Reddit thread. Someone was asking how to start a podcast, and I found myself typing out advice I've given a dozen times: it's not about the mic, it's about you, and there's no shortcut around sounding bad for a while. But writing that reply made me realize I'd been avoiding my own version of episode one — stalling on my own project over a logo, a color scheme, a vague sense that it wasn't "ready" yet. This episode covers: Why the fear of a bad first attempt keeps people from starting anything creative The research on growth mindset and creative motivation — and why it matters more than talent Survivorship bias in "overnight success" stories The literal trick I used to get unstuck: tilting my screen down so I couldn't see or second-guess what I was writing Why perfectionism about the "frame" (branding, aesthetics, setup) is often just a more sophisticated way of avoiding the actual work If you're sitting on an unstarted project, an unrecorded episode one, or an unfinished first draft, this one's for you. Source: Han, H., & Park, D. (2025). Unlocking creative potential: The role of creative mindset on creativity.Thinking Skills and Creativity, 58, 101953. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.tsc.2025.101953

The Watch I Wasn't Ready to Wear: On Possible Selves and Becoming Who You're Meant to Be

My brother sent a photo of a watch he bought me — and it sent me straight to a drawer where my late grandfather's watch had been sitting, unwound, for years. Turns out, this is a textbook case of "possible selves" — the psychological gap between who we are and who we're afraid we haven't earned the right to become. This episode is about inheritance, imposter syndrome, and why the feeling of being "ready" never actually comes first. What have you been waiting to feel ready for?

conditions, not character — what my calendar taught me about quitting on myself

I deleted my entire to-do list out of spite. What filled the empty calendar afterward wasn't more guilt — it was everything I'd already done that never made the list. A story about contingent self-worth, the psychology of why winning and losing both hit harder when you tie them to performance, and what's left of you on the days you cross nothing off at all. Source: Wouters, S., Thomaes, S., Colpin, H., Luyckx, K., & Verschueren, K. (2018). How does Conditional Regard Impact Well-being and Eagerness to Learn? An Experimental Study. Psychologica Belgica, 58(1), 105–114. https://doi.org/10.5334/pb.401

it was never all or nothing — how to ruin a meal and mean it

I tried making fried vermicelli noodles for the first time and ended up with porridge. What surprised me wasn't the failure — it was how quickly I let it mean everything. In this episode, I explore all-or-nothing thinking, what the physics of energy has to do with resilience, and why ruining something is sometimes the only way to make it. Source: Understanding and Overcoming All-or-Nothing Thinking

start now or plan forever; why do my sims always live better lives than I do

You know exactly what you need to do. You've written it down, time-blocked it, maybe even colour-coded it. And yet — nothing starts. In this episode, I reflects on six hours of playing The Sims and the uncomfortable moment I realised my virtual self was outperforming me. Not because he was smarter or more disciplined — but because he was simpler. No hesitation. No "one more thing before I start." Just the next action. References Gollwitzer, P. M. (1999). Implementation intentions: Strong effects of simple plans. American Psychologist, 54(7), 493–503. https://doi.org/10.1037/0003-066X.54.7.493

you still have a battery

How letting my laptop die let me live. Burnout doesn't always announce itself with a collapse — sometimes it shows up as not caring anymore. In this week's episode, I'm coming to you five hours deep into a report, running on fumes and the wrong kind of determination, and what happened when I unplugged my laptop on purpose and worked until the battery died. Rest days exist for a reason. You're no machine — but you still have a battery. Reference List https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35997632/

You Don't Need Hope, You Need Agency

This one is different. I'm going back to where it all started — episode one. And reading it with fresh eyes, a year later and 10,000km from home. In this episode: the reason agency is still the strongest predictor of life satisfaction, the mistake I made framing hope and agency as opposites, and why hope is the invitation that agency walks through. As always — there's always more INSyed.

you were always going to notice it

My shoelaces kept coming undone. On the third time stopping to tie them, I noticed a patch of grass I'd never really seen — despite walking past it every day. That's inattentional blindness: the brain's filter that helps us function, and quietly hides the world from us. This week, we look at what we've been missing. Reference List https://www.researchgate.net/publication/12620563_Gorillas_in_Our_Midst_Sustained_Inattentional_Blindness_for_Dynamic_Events https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-inattentional-blindness-2795020 https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-a-schema-2795873 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vJG698U2Mvo

good enough is enough

What if the thing holding you back isn't laziness — it's perfectionism in disguise? In this episode, I explore how the pressure to get everything right before we begin quietly narrows our thinking and kills our satisfaction. Drawing on a 2020 study on self-compassion as a remedy for maladaptive perfectionism, I share what it actually looks like to swap perfectionism for excellence — and why that shift changes everything. Plus, a small story from a career fair that I almost didn't go to. Reference List https://www.researchgate.net/publication/343521847_Self-Compassion_as_a_Mediator_Between_Perfectionism_and_Personal_Growth_Initiative https://summer.harvard.edu/blog/perfectionism-might-be-hurting-you-heres-how-to-change-your-relationship-to-achievement/#What-is-Perfectionism https://www.valleyoaks.org/health-hub/perfectionism-understanding-the-hidden-mental-health-risk/

Some things aren't yours to carry

We don't always get to choose what happens to us. But we do get to choose what we do next. In this episode, I'm coming to you straight from a cancelled haircut appointment — and what started as a frustrating morning turned into a reminder of something I learned in my psychology lectures: the locus of control. We talk about what it means to know the difference between what's in and out of your hands, what the research says about people who live by that distinction, and how an Islamic concept called Tawakkul quietly backs all of it up. Nothing can take your agency away from you. That's your INSyed look for this week. some things aren't yours to carry; how getting my haircut canceled made me happier References https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10698268/#sec7 https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-locus-of-control-2795434

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