Jollof and Kompa

Jollof and Kompa

di Alexis & Augustus
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Stagione 2

Are Women Asking for Too Much or Are Men Missing the Point?

Why are men expected to just know what women want? In this episode of Jollof & Kompa, a conversation inspired by the movie The Invite turns into a much bigger debate about expectations in marriage. Should your husband automatically notice the new dress, compliment you, know when you need reassurance, and understand what you're feeling without being told? Or is it unfair to expect your partner to read your mind? Augustus argues that men are often expected to instinctively get these things right, while Alexis pushes back on whether communicating and making your partner feel wanted should really feel like such a burden. That leads us into an even deeper conversation about why many men struggle to express their emotions, how childhood shapes the way we communicate as adults, and whether failing to share your feelings can become a form of dishonesty in marriage. And somehow, we end the episode debating whether we would ever accept that kind of invitation from another couple. 😂 Do you think men are expected to read women's minds in relationships—or should people simply communicate what they need? Let us know in the comments. Subscribe to Jollof & Kompa for honest conversations about marriage, culture, relationships, and figuring out life together.
S2 · E3
18 ago 2026
47:25

Why Are You Trying To Initiate S*x At 2AM?!!!

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In this episode of Jollof & Kompa, we’re having a very honest conversation about intimacy in marriage — who initiates, how we handle rejection, why setting the mood can sometimes feel like too much work, and apparently… why 2AM has become a surprisingly popular time in our marriage. What starts as a conversation about initiating intimacy quickly turns into a debate about “maintenance sx,” vacation sx, spontaneous moments, and whether there are actually different categories of intimacy in marriage. We also talk about something many couples probably experience but don’t always discuss openly: figuring out what your partner responds to, learning not to take rejection personally, and making sure the responsibility for initiating doesn’t always fall on one person. And yes… we eventually get to the bottom of why these 2 AM sessions keep happening. 😂 ' Do you think there’s a “best” way to initiate intimacy in marriage? And does timing matter? Let us know in the comments. If you enjoy honest, funny conversations about marriage, culture, relationships, and everyday life, subscribe to Jollof & Kompa and join the conversation.
S2 · E2
11 ago 2026
48:58

My Wife Says My Dad Raised Me Too Soft

Was I raised too soft—or do I simply understand the value of paying someone else to do work I do not enjoy? What started as a conversation about painting our home gym quickly turned into a debate about money, hard work, childhood, and whether physical labor actually builds character. Alexis believes there is value in doing things yourself, while Augustus would rather outsource the work, save the time, and focus his energy elsewhere. Then Alexis brings up Augustus’s childhood—and the fact that his father would not allow him to cut grass with the other students at boarding school. Was he protected, spoiled, or simply raised differently? Later, we reflect on Alexis completing her six-year military commitment, the sacrifices military life required from both of us, and how those early years tested our new marriage. Who do you agree with? Does doing physical work yourself build character, or should you pay for help when you can afford it? Let us know in the comments. Subscribe to Jollof and Kompa for honest conversations about marriage, culture, relationships, and navigating life together.
S2 · E1
4 ago 2026
45:47
Stagione 1

My Nigerian Husband and I Couldn't Agree on These Marriage Questions

In this episode, we answer a series of tough marriage questions—and let's just say my Nigerian husband and I didn't agree on as many as we thought we would. From money and family to conflict, loyalty, and life's biggest "what if" scenarios, these questions sparked some surprisingly honest conversations.
S1 · E26
23 giu 2026
38:19

What We Still Don't Do In Front of Each Other After 4 Years of Marriage

After 4 years of marriage, we know everything about each other… or do we? 😅 In this episode, we talk about the things we still don’t do in front of each other as a married couple. From farting and bathroom boundaries to keeping a little mystery alive, we explore the question every couple eventually faces: Can you be too comfortable in marriage? Are there things you and your spouse still keep private? Or do you believe marriage means there are no secrets? Let us know your thoughts in the comments 👇
S1 · E25
16 giu 2026
28:08

My Wife Says I'm Not Romantic... After This Conversation, I Get It.

I always thought I was showing love in the right ways. My wife disagreed. In this episode, we unpack why Alexis thinks I'm not romantic, how we define romance completely differently, and why couples can unintentionally miss each other's efforts. From flowers and date nights to food, quality time, and feeling truly seen, this conversation challenged a lot of my assumptions about marriage. Have you and your spouse ever realized you were speaking different love languages without knowing it? Let us know in the comments.
S1 · E24
9 giu 2026
40:31

Alexis Wants to Move to Japan for an $800/Night 'Birth House'

In this episode of we’re diving into some big life updates and a concept that completely changed how Alexis views postpartum care: the Japanese "Birth House." 🇯🇵👶 After researching the culture of postpartum support in Japan—where mothers can stay in a dedicated "birth house" for around $800/night to focus entirely on recovery—Alexis is ready to pack her bags! We discuss the importance of mother-centered care, why the U.S. might be missing the mark, and whether we can actually justify the cost (Augustus has some thoughts on that!). We also get into: 💃 Our Salsa Journey: The "cross-body lead" and why it almost caused a fight. 📱 New Morning Habits: Augustus is finally leaving his phone downstairs! 💰 The Money Debate: Are you a "cushion" or a "couch" person when it comes to savings? 🛠️ The Bike Rack Saga: How a simple car upgrade turned into a lesson in community (and why you need the right tools!). Questions for the Community: Would you consider "birth tourism" or a birth house for $800/night? Are you a sleeper who wakes up to check your phone, or can you sleep through the night like Alexis? In your relationship, who is the "saver" and who is the "spender"?
S1 · E23
2 giu 2026
37:37

My Nigerian Husband Thinks Crying During Arguments Is “Manipulation”

In this episode, we talk about crying during arguments and why we see it so differently in our marriage. My Nigerian husband believes crying during conflict can feel manipulative because it shifts the focus away from the conversation, while I see tears as a natural expression of vulnerability and emotion. We unpack how culture, upbringing, and communication styles shape the way we handle conflict as a couple — and why emotional expression during arguments can feel so complicated. What do you think? Is crying during arguments manipulative, or is it a healthy expression of emotion?
S1 · E22
26 mag 2026
31:27

Do Nigerian Men Find It Hard To Be Vulnerable In Marriage?

This episode turned into a much deeper conversation than we expected. We talked about emotional vulnerability, growing up in different households, why some men struggle to express emotions, and how those experiences show up in marriage. From family dynamics to painful personal moments, this was one of the most honest conversations we’ve had on the podcast.
S1 · E21
19 mag 2026
27:47

My American Wife Asked Me To Wash The Toilet

In this episode of Jollof & Kompa, we talk about what “Head of the House” actually means in a modern marriage — and why we don’t completely see it the same way. From chores and leadership to gender roles and expectations, this conversation started small… and turned into something much deeper. We unpack the cultural ideas we grew up with, the roles men and women are expected to play, and how marriage forces you to redefine a lot of those beliefs in real time. Let us know in the comments: What does “Head of the House” mean in your relationship?
S1 · E20
12 mag 2026
33:01
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