In this episode, I talk about how healing culture can sometimes make us feel like we need to become “better” before we deserve love.

Many of us start healing after heartbreak, disappointment, or unhealthy relationships, but somewhere along the way, healing can quietly become tied to the hope of finally being chosen correctly.

We begin believing that if we heal enough, love will finally stay. If we become emotionally intelligent enough, self-aware enough, feminine enough, disciplined enough, then maybe we’ll finally experience the relationship we’ve been waiting for.

But what happens when healing becomes less about peace and more about preparing for a future reward?

Maybe healing was never meant to make us perfect. Maybe it was meant to help us abandon ourselves less while experiencing life as human beings